tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-29421272853525212652012-01-12T14:28:28.010-05:00welcome to the bohemian sugarshack, formerly known as the boho ho' house. this is the home of beautifully adorned, naturally voluptuous ladies with locs, fros and braids schooled in the sensual arts of massage, aromatherapy, and gettin' down. start with <a href="http://bohemiansugarshack.blogspot.com/p/grand-tour.html">the grand tour</a>, then sit back, sip some herbal tea, and prepare to be delighted by the 21st century qadishtu...creatrixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09315118915908189763noreply@blogger.comBlogger2451100tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-70893279018858520192011-01-31T12:29:00.000-05:002011-01-31T12:29:05.750-05:00

greetings, beloveds! you may have noticed that your loving proprietress has been scarce lately.  as has happened before, life has a way of getting in the way...even in wonderfully juicy spaces such as this.  however, it may take a little longer than usual to get back into the swing of things this time.  that said, we will attempt to keep you blissed out via facebook, but for the time being,

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it might behoove you to check out rev. baruti's latest sermon. here's a taste: My brothers let me tell you, it is this easy, when SHE asks for tea, give the Black Woman in your life Tea, do not give HER terrible innuendo intended to bed HER. This will come about with gentleness, if I sent you to pick flowers for a woman I would not give you a bulldozer to do it. My expectation would be that you

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it's just sex features paintings made by couples making love.

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check it.

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today's word comes from an installment of the daily love, a source of inspiration and motivation a sistafriend recently hipped me to. we thought this was worth posting in its entirety. I don't know about you, but there are many times when I tend to put other people ahead of myself. In the past I've done this to my own detriment and then I've been angry when there is not love, attention, energy

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-74418937751719658002010-11-06T20:35:00.000-04:002010-11-06T20:35:36.990-04:00

recently, a three year old article linking oral sex to throat cancer resurfaced and got twitter all aflutter.  without repeating some of the ridiculousness that emerged in our timelines, here's a summary of what's known: there are about 100 different strains of HPV, and exposure is common. out of those 100 strains, about 30 can be sexually transmitted, but not all of these lead to what we

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today's word is an inspiring, challenging question from the super hussy herself, aiesha turman--director of the black girl project and all around fly mama. it reads: The minute you stop caring what other people think; the minute you stop trying to control outcomes; the minute you decide to adhere to your core beliefs; the minute that other folks' constructs have no bearing on your life; the

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"easy" chanté moore spoken: good morning baby, how did you rest last night? did you rest well? I love waking up to you what would you like for breakfast? I think you're what i'd like to do today it's so easy...it would please me so much to please you what would you like to do today? nothing is too much, come here baby. 1 i'll massage your back, run your bath it's never too much for me to do

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-54181195638672872912010-10-08T08:00:00.004-04:002010-10-08T08:00:04.882-04:00

today's reading comes to us from the candamaharosana tantra. when a devotee asks, "my darling, my joy, how shall the yogi know your form?", Mama answers: I come in the form of women of all classes and trades, And I am mother, sister and wife, Aunt and niece, Great-aunt and mother-in-law, And every other kind of female relation. And I am every tantric practitioner and yogini, And widow and ascetic

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if you'd like to learn how sacred love/loving can enhance your life, check out adoration of the beloved. rev. majadi baruti describes himself as an "afrikan goddess evangelist", and his insights on the divinity of woman are breathtaking. listen now, thank us later.

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chaka khan & rufus "everlasting love" When I feel you dreaming I think of sunsets How high my high gets [Chorus:] I wanna give to you an everlasting love I fill your life with a satisfying love All you need is an everlasting love All you want is a satisfying (mystifying) love Sun breezes, moonlight teases Friendly invasion Late night persuasion [Chorus] Each time you pass me by You saw me

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-74597752564092771792010-10-02T08:00:00.004-04:002010-10-02T08:00:05.104-04:00

here ya go! while the article itself is centered around folks in boston, there's some good general information as well. happy reading!

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or a little afternoon delight, if you prefer. we shared a quote from mama and some recommended reading over on facebook.  go see!

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-32193677755878223392010-09-29T11:00:00.002-04:002010-09-29T11:00:05.975-04:00

organic sex? sounds good to us! is this all too triflin and confused*, or a step in the right direction? ...lds and gay members sounds like common sense, right? but we all know that's not so common... *reference at about the 5:20 mark.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-15748053341958767552010-09-28T08:00:00.007-04:002010-09-28T08:00:10.218-04:00

it's always more complicated than we think it is... in this interview, two women critically discuss the intersections of sex work and migration. from nandita sharma: Basically, there is a fundamental disagreement between those who want to end sex work and those who want to make sex work safer for women. The fundamental disagreement is whether or not women have the right to engage in sex work.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-33261447917378086312010-09-27T10:00:00.001-04:002010-09-27T20:56:53.771-04:00

jesse boykins iii amorous sorry, lyrics not available

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saw this link posted on facebook this morning, and thought it would be a little something wonderful to share with you all... They say that it was the Great Mother in all of her forms that taught them how to be women and how create balance within their lives. They heard Her voice in the whisperings of the wind. They experienced Her purifying qualities by washing in the ocean. They felt Her

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we hope summer brought you bliss beyond measure and peace beyond passion. the long, hot days are a small price to pay for the renewal brought by sun-soaked skin, wouldn't you agree? the harvest season has inspired a new look, and the will to bring you more good stuff. keep your eye on the sidebars, and if you haven't joined us on facebook or twitter, what are you waiting for? thanks

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I'm not a big believer of the worship of statues, but there's a beautiful symbolism to what I saw there, because a woman's heart is just like that. At the essence of every woman's heart is the divine feminine. It contains everything that has ever been beautiful, or lovely, or inspiring, in any woman, anywhere, at any time. The very essence of every woman's heart is the peak of wisdom, the peak of

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-5184460207810154022010-06-25T06:00:00.028-04:002010-09-29T07:41:36.459-04:00

greetings, beloveds. we hope you enjoyed the "black love crisis" series.  ten weeks is a goodly time to prove a point, don'tcha think? so, is there really a crisis of black love? in some ways, yes. there are problems and deep wounds; there is pain and mistrust.  we must acknowledge and reckon with the difficult in order to effectively and deeply heal ourselves and our community. however,

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super hussy to the rescue! glad she chimed in, 'cause that was a necessary voice.

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over at the black youth project, fallon had a thing or three to say about the state of the single black woman. read on... Perhaps, someone who has a glimmer of common sense  Hill Harper, Steve Harvey, or Kevin Powell should write a how-to-book with colorful pictures teaching black men how to become unconventional/atypical black men . . . the kind of man who allows a black woman to be herself

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-7978808217015727122010-06-04T06:00:00.012-04:002010-06-04T06:00:08.602-04:00

problem chylde uses a piece of sparkle's post to frame a statement on her personal journey towards a deeper understanding of perfect love. keep cross-posting and talking, beloveds. let's open our hearts and minds so we can share in the abundance we all deserve.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-17391642813970273012010-05-29T09:00:00.000-04:002010-05-29T09:00:07.726-04:00

about a month ago, the illustrious christa bell shared the 40 day orgasm challenge. we've cut/pasted the document below for those of you who don't have access to facebook. enjoy! Ecstasy, insight, healing: 40 Days & 40 Nights is a six-week meditative journey into the heart of pussy and the transformative power of your orgasm. If the conditions for a revolution do not exist, then it is the job

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-86890509437366070982010-05-28T09:00:00.009-04:002010-05-28T09:00:05.288-04:00

m. dot's thoughts on beyonce's relationship to the perpetuation of dysfunctional black relationships. she takes you on a ride, so quoting outta context wouldn't be sufficient...we suggest heading on over to racialicious to check it out in its entirety.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-72357433591060052652010-05-21T09:00:00.007-04:002010-05-21T09:00:02.788-04:00

the beautiful struggler does a good job of approaching the issue from a media savvy standpoint while noting the fact that only about 43% of black men are married {compared to about 42% of black women} without that being a "crisis" at all. she also asks the question: ...why is it that while Black women have used these new media outlets as the opportunity to be self-reflective and discuss Black

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-64665868463266295832010-05-14T09:00:00.004-04:002010-05-14T09:00:10.141-04:00

our dear friend sparkle has also weighed in on the conversation. why we love her take? nobody that i know of, with the exception of the ladies at crunk feminist collective, has mentioned that queer (by queer i mean lesbians, bisexual, pan/omnisexual, trans, intersex) self-identified black women aren’t considered in this conversation. again: we are not a monolith. you can’t have this

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thoughts? stories? could spark some blissful journaling, hmm?

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YAAAAASSSSSSS!! whew...sorry, y'all. had to let that out. the crunk feminist collective broke that fully down!  thanks, y'all!

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interesting article on sex surrogates, detailing how they can work with psychotherapists, psychologists and other counselors to help and heal sexual issues. we also enjoyed the nod to the international professional surrogates association, which we'll add to the "serious side" sidebar. thanks to sexis magazine for the tweet that led to this post!

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v-day: until the violence stops you'll laugh you'll cry you'll wanna kick some ass. and if you haven't seen the vagina monologues, that's another highly recommended piece. criticisms duly noted, it can be a good way to get the conversation started.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-91426139647907114102010-05-01T07:00:00.011-04:002010-05-01T07:00:01.337-04:00

rev. majadi baruti's show sons of the goddess, featuring brother sehu of the goddess herstory collective. listen & learn!

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-34189453031492289162010-04-30T09:00:00.002-04:002010-04-30T09:00:11.277-04:00

dr. cooper's huffington post article is about the best article we've seen thus far on the "single black woman crisis". why? for this: At the same time, those Black women who make a concerted effort not to male bash, ever-attendant to the social plight of black men, begin the harsh internal dialogue about dealing with our daddy issues, confronting our self-esteem problems, conquering debt,

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the illustrious folks at super hussy media are accepting submissions for a new project. read on! The Talk: Women of Color On Sex is an exploration of how self-identified women across the Diaspora came to learn about sex and what it meant to have a sexual relationship. Did your mom, aunty or tia sit you down? Were your homegirls or hermanas responsible for giving you the blow by blow? Was

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-40494017619029007592010-04-28T06:00:00.001-04:002010-04-28T09:32:50.765-04:00

yahzarah (purple st. james) "four alarm fire" sorry, lyrics not available

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a poem you should read.

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we came across this gem on single black male via twitter**. first, we'd like to applaud "veronica" and "bahama" for their comments. right on for illustrating the possibilities of a partnership model! but the main question the blog raises is this: with all the things black folks have to work through in their intimate relationships - from within and without - is operating within these rigid

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-73520267496977708892010-04-26T09:00:00.002-04:002010-04-26T11:16:08.978-04:00

although we mentioned it very briefly, we didn't want this gem to get lost in the shuffle. the insanity report practically drips testosterone on a normal day {not that there's anything wrong with that}, but this analysis of jason whitlock's dangerously inept defense of a football player accused of sexual assualt is spot on. the sugar shack gives props to brothas who get it, especially knowing

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-56009709669080561962010-04-24T09:00:00.003-04:002010-04-24T09:00:01.861-04:00

have we ever mentioned that we love soulbrother v.2? well, we do. and his new entry about black women being the new black is one of the reasons why. go read it!

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have you ever noticed that some of our most stinging insults revolve around our genitalia? cunt prick pussy dick we can do better than that, can't we? why do we insist on maligning the very parts that bring us so much pleasure, not to mention bring us into the world?  they should be the last aspects of our bodies that we relegate to such a lowly status. in particular, the notion of a "pussy

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hey, beloveds! don't wanna make any promises, but we're hoping to get back to blogging very, very soon. maybe even give this place a new paint job. we'll see what happens. in the meantime - as always - we wish you love, peace, bliss & abundance! stay tuned! ankh, wedja, seneb, ..~..ms bliss..~...

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-56057718951424063672010-04-02T23:56:00.000-04:002010-04-02T23:56:37.948-04:00

check this out! {relatively work safe...material made for tv. found via twitter.}

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so remember when we mentioned the linger mint? well, now there's vajazzling! {yes, you read that right. as in bedazzling.} for a hilariously critical take on this whole debacle, check out the washington post's sexist beatdown. to be clear, we support adornment of all kinds. but we have to agree with amanda and sady when they say if this is what it takes for your partner to fearlessly look

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"window seat" erykah badu So, presently I'm standing Here right now You're so demanding Tell me what u want from me Concluding Concentrating on my music, lover, and my babies Makes me wanna ask the lady for a ticket outta town So can I get a window seat Don't want nobody next to me I just want a ticket outta town A look around And a safe touch down Can I get a window seat Don't want nobody

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-65036172131608023732010-03-13T15:17:00.002-05:002010-03-13T15:20:11.985-05:00

some sistas have a frank talk about the good stuff... and if the weekend rain is putting you in the mood for some hot stories, check out the updated stories at ancestral carnal rituals.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-19045727098158623932010-03-12T16:56:00.000-05:002010-03-12T16:56:26.335-05:00

once again, bianca's dropping jewels in her newest article: "what do we know about open relationships?"

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-91263801064443841492010-02-27T12:52:00.001-05:002010-02-27T12:53:46.518-05:00

...or did you? {if you're not familiar with the TED series, i enthusiastically suggest checking it out. lots of WONDERFUL information!}

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sade "soldier of love" I've lost the use of my heart But I'm still alive Still looking for the light And the endless pool on the other si e It's the wild wild west I'm doing my best I'm at the borderline of my faith I'm at the hinterland of my devotion I'm in the front line of this battle of mine But i'm still alive I'm a soldier of love Every day and night I'm a soldier of love

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-76179716881038616792010-02-16T07:00:00.001-05:002010-02-16T07:00:09.214-05:00

camara has this lovely blog called sistah goddess where she chronicled a 40 day period of personal renewal at the dawn of 2010.  here's her beginning, and here's the summary of her journey. a quick skim revealed beautiful pictures and some delicious revelations, so we figured we'd share the joy! ::~:: love, bliss, & inspiration ::~::

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-45298074420894278912010-02-15T07:00:00.003-05:002010-02-15T08:21:52.770-05:00

erykah badu f. lil wayne "jump up in the air" [Erykah Badu - Chorus] I know you want to Jump up in the air and stay there [repeated] Jumped up out my seat I know you want to Something musta got in me I know you want to Church neva felt this good before I know you want to 'Cept I was at the club Oh Oh I know you want to Bounce Hey come on I know you want to I know you want to reach to the

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-973894327281778632010-02-14T10:36:00.000-05:002010-02-14T10:36:16.354-05:00

if you needed a sign, this could be it. we adore examples of holistic masculinity. if you know some, holla! could be a new sidebar in the making...

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-44713001801817782712010-02-02T06:00:00.003-05:002010-02-02T06:00:01.375-05:00

now we can add the linger mint to the list of things that are wrong with your vagina! you know, besides the fact that you have one of those icky things in the first place. and, here comes a collective sigh in 3...2...1...

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-73997198075587316952010-02-01T06:35:00.000-05:002010-02-01T06:35:24.502-05:00

{note: slight trigger warning. no graphic content, but discussion of sex offense laws & news articles follow} well. here's a complex issue for ya... i think we can all agree on the need to protect folks from pedophiles and rapists. but the lack of nuance in some sex offender laws is in need of examination. for instance, should ALL statutory rape cases be covered, or only those that are

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-67436660591483555292010-01-29T07:00:00.001-05:002010-01-29T07:00:08.252-05:00

drawing, once again, from bell hooks' sisters of the yam: black women are often more passionate in our rage and suffering than we are in our loving.  the energy that we bring to situations that arouse hostility or pain can easily be redirected. we can tell ourselves daily to direct our most intense feeling to those areas of our lives that bring pleasure and delight.  to achieve this end we need

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-6953338414488509322010-01-20T07:00:00.002-05:002010-01-20T10:57:44.674-05:00

bell hooks' sisters of the yam should be part of our personal scriptures. today's word is among the reasons why: clearly, if black women want to be about the business of collective self-healing, we have to be about the business of inventing all manner of images and representations that show us the way we want to be and are. within white-supremacist patriarchal society, it is very difficult to

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-64629362779456935012010-01-19T08:00:00.010-05:002010-01-20T10:57:22.485-05:00

"dealing" eric roberson feat. lalah hathaway Where do we go from here What do I do with these feelings Longing to have you near Knowing...we shouldn't be dealing Verse: Why must the bad thing always feel so good Why cant I just stay away Though are situation was understood Still does not mean its ok {Chorus} Where do we go from here What do I do with these feelings Longing to have you near

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-41034898745908088512010-01-18T12:04:00.001-05:002010-02-15T09:08:23.806-05:00

yanvalou dance from haiti...celebrating the rada nation to learn more about how you can help haiti, see the help haiti/aidez ayiti section that's been added to the sidebar at the top left of the screen.   vive l'ayiti! l'union fait la force!

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-91759493639498343872010-01-17T16:51:00.001-05:002010-01-17T16:51:27.918-05:00

today's word comes from poetess extraordinaire, nikki giovanni: the butterfly those things which you so laughingly call  hands are in fact two  brown butterflies fluttering  across the pleasure  they give  my body  [21 feb 71]

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-44368077430478105722010-01-12T07:00:00.000-05:002010-01-12T07:00:01.160-05:00

looks like the daily beast has chimed in on the alleged g spot controversy. we'll just quote the illustrious lady bi on this one: i'm SO over this g-spot research stuff. i get why it may matter to some docs, but why do we always have to theorize/pathologize our pleasure? when will we realize our bodies are not all the same and get over it? if we find pleasure in our bodies in ways docs don't

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-4029827463352859982010-01-11T07:00:00.039-05:002010-01-11T07:00:02.007-05:00

disclaimer: we understand the sun is essentially britain's equivalent to the new york post, and that the reporting here is filled with almost as many "-isms" as the story itself. but this incident is so indicative of the ways in which kyriarchy and the repression of full and healthy sexuality hurts everyone while simultaneously empowering dangerous, pathological behavior that we had to share. A

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-7237295853689538912010-01-09T08:10:00.000-05:002010-01-09T08:10:03.851-05:00

came across this lovely nugget of an article yesterday.  we'll wait while you go read. ...finished? well, allow me to retort. WHAT?? Just imagining him there in his office on his own, it seemed like the ultimate act of desperation, something you'd only do if you didn't have a partner. this? still? in 2010? it's a safe bet that any adult in a long term relationship has had the "is porn

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-20670296909038964222010-01-02T16:47:00.003-05:002010-01-02T16:48:11.512-05:00

beautiful erotic photos by saddi {most are NSFW!}

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-27112303827835186452010-01-01T19:47:00.002-05:002010-01-01T19:47:54.648-05:00

happy new year, beloveds! may you always be surrounded by love, bliss, abundance and peace. make 2010 a wonderful year!

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december 31st is set up to be a very special evening: a blue moon coupled with a lunar eclipse. this means a lot of extra power, so before you go out and grab that midnight champagne, try reviving your favorite full moon ritual or create a new one to cement those resolutions, prayers, healings and incantations. and, as always, it's never a bad idea to review a good, detailed monthly forecast

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-9552268442605176992009-12-29T06:00:00.023-05:002009-12-29T06:00:06.897-05:00

greetings & salutations, beloveds! for those of you who found us via myspace, please know that page will be deleted no later than 1/1/2010, but very likely some time on new year's eve.* if you haven't already, join the party on facebook, twitter {we'll follow back as long as you're a real person!}, or follow us thru your blogspot account for instant updates. as always, thank you for reading,

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-4412510852331014362009-12-28T18:06:00.000-05:002009-12-28T18:06:39.530-05:00

so where are all the scandalous women? alternet seeks answers. single and "of a certain age"? check out this newsweek article. empowerher gives some suggestions for making a toast to love in 2010. you can't buy love, but apparently you can choose it. agree or disagree?

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carol riddick "flirtatious" sorry, lyrics not available

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may the return of the sun bring innumerable blessings!

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makeda voletta talks about the power of the menstrual cycle on the powerful women only show.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-33840245738469832642009-12-19T09:44:00.002-05:002009-12-19T09:44:45.789-05:00

"couldn't hear her" eric roberson left sorry, lyrics not available

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let's chat a bit about the infamous switch, shall we? ...hold on, now.  for those of you about to run out of the post screaming, we're not gettin' into grandma goin out to the backyard or any s&m type stuff.* we're talking about movement. how many of you grew up being admonished for switchin', sashayin', puttin' your hands on your imagination, et cetera? for those who took that advice

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-14317608743055827832009-12-08T06:19:00.001-05:002009-12-08T06:19:22.021-05:00

she's back. yes!

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ms. abiola breaks it down for the ladies...

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uganda-based afri-pads is providing resuable, cotton menstrual products to give girls the opportunity to stay in school during their cycles! Our objective is to produce and distribute low-cost, washable menstrual pads to schoolgirls in rural Uganda. By providing girls with an affordable sanitary product, we aim to empower girls with the confidence to stay in school school during their monthly

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-41323827632731836602009-12-01T00:00:00.004-05:002009-12-01T00:00:00.778-05:00

today marks the 21st world aids day.  for more information, visit: world aids day {UK} UNAIDS world aids campaign stay safe, loves.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-10116668285231338472009-11-30T09:00:00.002-05:002009-11-30T09:00:04.918-05:00

from the guttmacher institute, a wealth of information on healthy sexuality: relationships, intimacy and sexual behavior. the huffington post speaks out on the double victimization of girls in the juvenile justice system. america shows her puritan roots just in time for thanks-taking. and, last but not least, lothario victory in korea!

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-63966960951155210202009-11-28T22:55:00.000-05:002009-11-28T22:55:00.279-05:00

beloveds, allow us to draw your attention to the sidebar... new to the goodies list is hips and curves--sexy lingerie for full figured ladies.  just in time for the gift-giving season! you might also be interested in some emerging erotica at ancestral carnal rituals, queen huney's words and wares, or the delicious kinky courtesan, all of which are listed in the more love section. finally, in

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-87311857978759594052009-11-10T14:19:00.001-05:002009-11-10T14:20:12.850-05:00

loved ones, please enjoy the archives, books, blogs and other goodies until nanowrimo has concluded (nov. 30 or thereabouts). we may manage to scrape up some goodies between now and then, but no promises! your loving proprietress, ~:~ ms. bliss ~:~

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sista toldja talks about one of the most prevalent stigmas surrounding sistas and sex.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-82346009002324500462009-11-02T16:37:00.000-05:002009-11-02T16:37:09.248-05:00

shaker kiriamaya breaks down what's wrong with julie bindel and other transphobic folks.

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of course, tonight is halloween / all hallows eve / samhain.   tomorrow is all saints day.  the full moon falls on all souls day, november 2nd. dia de los muertos celebrations are ongoing... so many cultures coming together to celebrate the transitions and power in life and death. we hope that you are reveling in the ancestral energy and

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-78534420539820650072009-10-31T21:58:00.000-04:002009-10-31T21:58:10.262-04:00

{if you're not familiar with sheela na gig, here ya go. in addition, the link directly below features a prominent shot of jewelry depicting anatomically correct labia.  click consciously.} at first glance, this is comical. on the other hand, it's yet another example of how nearly any statement of female beauty beyond "lips, hips and tits" can be made light of, or even backhandedly insulted. 

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poet shel silverstein understood that the minds of children hold some of the greatest insight to be found among us.  in honor of that understanding, today's word is his poem, "listen to the mustn'ts". Listen to the MUSTN'TS, child. Listen to the DON'TS Listen to the SHOULDN'TS The IMPOSSIBLES, the WON'TS Listen to the NEVER HAVES Then listen close to me-- Anything can happen, child, ANYTHING

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-33359014320176362602009-10-28T15:21:00.001-04:002009-10-28T22:46:51.278-04:00

november is national novel writing month! and if you have any trouble, there's always write or die... get busy, beauties!

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beyond marriage.org.  because it's time to shift the paradigm. {thanks to nueva_voz for the link}

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today's word comes from saul williams' ...said the shotgun to the head.  an excerpt from the 4th chapter... your dead ancestors re-die in air tight vaults they conspire to seduce your children you have done nothing to protect them from the evil eye i serve a living God she is a distorted horn solo fingered by the hand of a master time's signature has done no more than punctuate her

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over the weekend, a friend told your author that he was "giving up" on black women.  you've heard the reasons why--too many issues, too much pain. the most interesting part of the conversation was when he referenced a conversation with a white woman.  apparently, she assumed he already only dated white women because, in her view, it would be difficult for him to find a black woman who

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-83662033151702258792009-10-24T16:24:00.004-04:002009-10-24T16:29:11.260-04:00

couldn't get this to sound sweet enough to post it here, so, if you like, hop on over to the personal space for some thoughts on what happens when commitment shows up without intimacy.

creatrixhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09315118915908189763noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-72488140002274085932009-10-24T16:00:00.002-04:002009-10-24T20:14:26.753-04:00

alicia myers / one way "if you play your cards right" something on your mind i feel it every time i'm with you it's what you like to do, something i like, too let's get it tight if you play your cards right everything will be alright with me if you play your cards right everything will be alright with me you won't have to hide what you feel inside can't be afraid to talk to me love is

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-29808861823729304752009-10-14T22:35:00.000-04:002009-10-14T22:35:55.853-04:00

today's word comes from the ethical slut: a practical guide to polyamory, open relationships & other adventures by dossie easton and janet w. hardy. We dream of a world where no one is driven by desires they have no hope of fulfilling, where no one suffers from shame for their desires, or embarrassment about their dreams, where no one is starving from lack of sex. We dream of a world where no

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-9748831608004648642009-10-12T18:58:00.000-04:002009-10-12T18:58:05.070-04:00

not quite back in the swing, but had to share this with y'all: sensual marriage counseling for kenyan women... an excellent and empowering way to help keep hubbies at home with their families.

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-32850486942425478952009-09-27T09:00:00.002-04:002009-09-27T09:00:03.779-04:00

if you haven't heard of sara kruzan, you need to.

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recently, essence magazine had a brotha by the name of jozen cummings blog on their it's a man's world site. a greek 9.com forum post thankfully retained the original text before it was removed from essence's site: The Truth About Jump Offs [original url: http://blog.essence.com/itsamansworld/2009/09/the-truth-about-jump-offs.html] Welcome to ESSENCE.com's new blog where real men sound off

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typically your proprietress doesn't link to the more personal side of things, but thought this might warrant an exception. my personal deconstruction of audre lorde's essay "the uses of the erotic" has been on my mind as i navigate a plethora of emotions related to personal healing and transition. i invite you to read and discuss--either here or on the original post. read mama audre's

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-10516373700963928972009-09-17T20:47:00.002-04:002009-09-25T20:42:16.969-04:00

you must read this!

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since mercury's in retrograde, you may want to hold off on starting anything completely new {and you definitely don't wanna buy that new flat screen...}, but a new moon is always a good time to take a deep breath and start over. remember you can always see what's happening with the moon in the sidebar. happy gazing!

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racialicious is one of our favorite spots to hang out, but this post is one after our own heart. from ms plaid's razor sharp analysis to her brief but poignant observation on using "voodoo" in vain, we couldn't agree more.  here's a sample: Comparatively speaking, race play has an unvarnished honesty about it; this particular organization and its programs work with some racial

nuit menhitnoreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2942127285352521265.post-30863977225744764772009-09-08T09:00:00.002-04:002009-09-08T09:00:00.275-04:00

jeff buckley "everybody here wants you" lyrics embedded in video

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speaking of the collaborative creative efforts of women, check out goddesses rising. you'll be better off for it. ~:~ love & sugar! ~:~

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