we'll see you on the other side!
12.31.2008
12.27.2008
quickie!
sublimefemme unbound is penned by a "high femme queer theorist, who critiques politics and culture wearing a sheer black peignor and pink marabou stilettos."
any questions?
{discovered via creative xicana's blogroll}
any questions?
{discovered via creative xicana's blogroll}
12.26.2008
why don't they just give her a scarlet letter?
sigh.
this speaks to so many levels of sexism, dominance, oppression, spiritual fraud and misogyny that it's difficult to even know where to begin.
if she'd committed murder, or stolen from the children's hospital, or abused an elder...ok.
but exercising her right as a grown woman in her bed and her house?
nah. you coulda handled that in the pastor's office.
michael k probably got it right: somebody's mad they got turned down...
this speaks to so many levels of sexism, dominance, oppression, spiritual fraud and misogyny that it's difficult to even know where to begin.
if she'd committed murder, or stolen from the children's hospital, or abused an elder...ok.
but exercising her right as a grown woman in her bed and her house?
nah. you coulda handled that in the pastor's office.
michael k probably got it right: somebody's mad they got turned down...
in memoriam
the shack would like to take a moment to mark the passing of a bastion of sensuality, eartha kitt.
her talent allowed her to turn a strife and rejection filled beginning into a life brimming with elegance, glamour and class.
enjoy your rest, mama eartha. may you be welcomed in the next realm.
12.25.2008
in the waiting room...
john mayer
"slow dancing in a burning room"
It's not a silly little moment,
It's not the storm before the calm.
This is the deep and dying breath of
This love that we've been working on.
Can't seem to hold you like I want to
So I can feel you in my arms.
Nobody's gonna come and save you,
We pulled too many false alarms.
We're going down,
And you can see it too.
We're going down,
And you know that we're doomed.
My dear,
We're slow dancing in a burning room.
I was the one you always dreamed of,
You were the one I tried to draw.
How dare you say it's nothing to me?
Baby, you're the only light I ever saw.
I'll make the most of all the sadness,
You'll be a bitch because you can.
You try to hit me just to hurt me
So you leave me feeling dirty
Because you can't understand.
We're going down,
And you can see it too.
We're going down,
And you know that we're doomed.
My dear,
We're slow dancing in a burning room.
Go cry about it - why don't you?
Go cry about it - why don't you?
Go cry about it - why don't you?
My dear, we're slow dancing in a burning room,
Burning room,
Burning room,
Burning room,
Burning room.
Don't you think we oughta know by now?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we oughta know by now?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we oughta know by now?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
bliss manifestation
what it look like, y'all?
on this morning of the sun's rebirth, we wanted to offer a ritual that could be helpful in ushering in 2009. this touch of hoodoo is a good way to help maintain your bliss, or open your road to it.
bliss is a journey; it takes work to get there and stay there. it is glimpsed in moments--sometimes minutes, seconds and less-than-seconds. this glimpse is no guarantee against bad days, potholes, or stumbling blocks. but once you've held it, you know it, and you look for it in everything around you.
to begin, you will need to know the phases of the moon each month. you can use a virtual moon phase tracker or paper calendar for this. {don't forget to look for post consumer recycled paper!}
also, know that this practice tends to put some serious change in motion, so be sure you're ready for that before you begin.
new moon: write down any obstacles you feel are standing in your way. think: outdated ideas, habits, ways of being. this is not about the broad in accounting you can't stand. it's about how you might be standing in your own way. if you find it difficult to list obstacles, you may want to use the vow break* as a template.
after you've listed your obstacles, get rid of them. you can burn them, bury them, rip them up and flush them down the toilet...whatever feels permanent and releasing to you.
full moon: give thanks. that's it. express gratitude for the lifting of your obstacles--even if you feel it hasn't happened yet. be thankful the bunion on your pinky toe didn't drive you nuts when you broke in those new pumps. say a prayer of thanksgiving you already use. be grateful for the random compliment from that stranger. nothing is too large or small, as long as you're truly thankful for it.**
that's it!
if you have a sister circle or similar group, you may find it helpful to do this together to keep each other on task each month.
...oh, and give it time. this is akin to birthing, so mind the gestation period.
happy bliss crafting!
*the vow breaker is a VERY powerful mantra. be very specific and remain clear around what you're attempting to rid yourself of.
**note that some traditions reverse the cycle, purging at the full moon and giving thanks/renewing with the new.
on this morning of the sun's rebirth, we wanted to offer a ritual that could be helpful in ushering in 2009. this touch of hoodoo is a good way to help maintain your bliss, or open your road to it.
bliss is a journey; it takes work to get there and stay there. it is glimpsed in moments--sometimes minutes, seconds and less-than-seconds. this glimpse is no guarantee against bad days, potholes, or stumbling blocks. but once you've held it, you know it, and you look for it in everything around you.
to begin, you will need to know the phases of the moon each month. you can use a virtual moon phase tracker or paper calendar for this. {don't forget to look for post consumer recycled paper!}
also, know that this practice tends to put some serious change in motion, so be sure you're ready for that before you begin.
new moon: write down any obstacles you feel are standing in your way. think: outdated ideas, habits, ways of being. this is not about the broad in accounting you can't stand. it's about how you might be standing in your own way. if you find it difficult to list obstacles, you may want to use the vow break* as a template.
after you've listed your obstacles, get rid of them. you can burn them, bury them, rip them up and flush them down the toilet...whatever feels permanent and releasing to you.
full moon: give thanks. that's it. express gratitude for the lifting of your obstacles--even if you feel it hasn't happened yet. be thankful the bunion on your pinky toe didn't drive you nuts when you broke in those new pumps. say a prayer of thanksgiving you already use. be grateful for the random compliment from that stranger. nothing is too large or small, as long as you're truly thankful for it.**
that's it!
if you have a sister circle or similar group, you may find it helpful to do this together to keep each other on task each month.
...oh, and give it time. this is akin to birthing, so mind the gestation period.
happy bliss crafting!
*the vow breaker is a VERY powerful mantra. be very specific and remain clear around what you're attempting to rid yourself of.
**note that some traditions reverse the cycle, purging at the full moon and giving thanks/renewing with the new.
12.24.2008
quickie!
good for canada!
can somebody show me an american health-related site with this kind of inclusivity (colleges and unitarians don't count...)?
can somebody show me an american health-related site with this kind of inclusivity (colleges and unitarians don't count...)?
in the waiting room...
david ryan harris
"if i had a dime"
You come to me and I hear a sound busy like traffic
Headed out of this town.
You seem to bring dear heaven so close I almost can grab it
And head on out of this town.
Chorus:
If I had a dime for every time
I thought of you, I would be through.
Scraping for crumbs behind the sun.
You would be mine if I had a dime.
You look at me and I put my faith in something the eye can’t see
Yes, I believe.
Without a sign, let's steal away
Each tempting charm to please, entice or appease.
Chorus
You’d no longer be above me on the high road that I can’t get to.
Can’t you feel me at the gateway? Let me come through.
If I had the change…
If I could trade my reverie for something real…
Chorus
You come to me and I hear a sound busy like traffic
Headed, out of this town.
12.23.2008
sexy news
typically we don't like to highlight the negative, but these two things bore mentioning this morning...
apparently turning gays straight is like saving the rainforest. really?
because that always "turns" 'em...doesn't it? lesbian gang raped in california.
apparently turning gays straight is like saving the rainforest. really?
because that always "turns" 'em...doesn't it? lesbian gang raped in california.
the P word
ok. remember the footnote in this post about linking to porn? well, here's the long version of that. with more footnotes!!
you may have already noticed that we provide several links to other sites and blogs that contain adult material. however, linking to sex workers, erotic photography, sex toy sellers and other adult-themed bloggers is not necessarily the same as sending you to videos of folks gettin' it in.
this particular blog was conceived with the intent of being tongue-in-cheek, informative, and gynocentric. most mainstream pornography is none of those things*. it is hoped, however, that some of the content here would empower womyn and those who love them to begin or continue their exploration of their personal pleasure points--an enterprise that could most certainly be facilitated by other bloggers, personal toys, erotica, etc.
whether or not you and your partner(s) enjoy porn, some of you might agree that all the "see this brown bitch get rammed in two holes!!" stuff can be, at minimum, cringe-inducing when you're just tryin' to get to the good stuff.
we won't even delve into the near constant fetishization of colored bodies, or this will turn into a book.
similarly, erotica is explicitly sexual, but most of it is written with women in mind--often by women--whether the characters are engaging in hetero activity or not.
furthermore, many--if not most--sex workers are women. challenging the pervasive image of these women as mentally ill, chemically addicted "whores" worthy of abuse, degradation and ridicule** instead of full fledged human beings who provide a necessary and obviously lucrative service is part of the reason sex positive feminism, sexology, and similar ideologies/disciplines {not to mention this blog and others like it} exist.
when we find women who are doing this sort of work--particularly when they have transitioned from the "unacceptable" {e.g., porn} to the acceptable {research, advanced degrees, etc}--we think it's important to link to them as a means of disbelieving the hype***.
so, to summarize, we don't link to explicit, hardcore pornography out of respect for those queens who may be offended by the general, mainstream portrayals of women in that genre. if you love it, keep on loving it. you just won't find it here.
{google is your friend! there are also LOTS of free porn blogs on blogger...but you didn't hear that from us...}
feel free to weigh in on the comments section...remember that we love it when you read, but we simply go to pieces when you talk to us!
*well, maybe tongue-in-cheek. the "acting" can be downright hilarious. no one believes it. i mean, really. let's not even get started on some of the extended rap videos certain "urban" smut directors are aiming for these days...
**that is not to say that prostitution motivated by addiction and mental illness is not problematic, but we'd do well to examine the issues behind why these women are addicted/ill and not simply focus on how they support--and i use that term very loosely in comparison to, say, call girls, porn actors and exotic dancers--themselves. it's layered, complicated, and messy, and binary thinking gets us nowhere.
***see annie sprinkle's brilliant whores are my heroes. darkdaughta is another blogger who has some great writing around sex work and related issues here and here. furthermore, sexology may sound funny, but why shouldn't we study the ways we love and enjoy each other? isn't that how we all get here?
you may have already noticed that we provide several links to other sites and blogs that contain adult material. however, linking to sex workers, erotic photography, sex toy sellers and other adult-themed bloggers is not necessarily the same as sending you to videos of folks gettin' it in.
this particular blog was conceived with the intent of being tongue-in-cheek, informative, and gynocentric. most mainstream pornography is none of those things*. it is hoped, however, that some of the content here would empower womyn and those who love them to begin or continue their exploration of their personal pleasure points--an enterprise that could most certainly be facilitated by other bloggers, personal toys, erotica, etc.
whether or not you and your partner(s) enjoy porn, some of you might agree that all the "see this brown bitch get rammed in two holes!!" stuff can be, at minimum, cringe-inducing when you're just tryin' to get to the good stuff.
we won't even delve into the near constant fetishization of colored bodies, or this will turn into a book.
similarly, erotica is explicitly sexual, but most of it is written with women in mind--often by women--whether the characters are engaging in hetero activity or not.
furthermore, many--if not most--sex workers are women. challenging the pervasive image of these women as mentally ill, chemically addicted "whores" worthy of abuse, degradation and ridicule** instead of full fledged human beings who provide a necessary and obviously lucrative service is part of the reason sex positive feminism, sexology, and similar ideologies/disciplines {not to mention this blog and others like it} exist.
when we find women who are doing this sort of work--particularly when they have transitioned from the "unacceptable" {e.g., porn} to the acceptable {research, advanced degrees, etc}--we think it's important to link to them as a means of disbelieving the hype***.
so, to summarize, we don't link to explicit, hardcore pornography out of respect for those queens who may be offended by the general, mainstream portrayals of women in that genre. if you love it, keep on loving it. you just won't find it here.
{google is your friend! there are also LOTS of free porn blogs on blogger...but you didn't hear that from us...}
feel free to weigh in on the comments section...remember that we love it when you read, but we simply go to pieces when you talk to us!
*well, maybe tongue-in-cheek. the "acting" can be downright hilarious. no one believes it. i mean, really. let's not even get started on some of the extended rap videos certain "urban" smut directors are aiming for these days...
**that is not to say that prostitution motivated by addiction and mental illness is not problematic, but we'd do well to examine the issues behind why these women are addicted/ill and not simply focus on how they support--and i use that term very loosely in comparison to, say, call girls, porn actors and exotic dancers--themselves. it's layered, complicated, and messy, and binary thinking gets us nowhere.
***see annie sprinkle's brilliant whores are my heroes. darkdaughta is another blogger who has some great writing around sex work and related issues here and here. furthermore, sexology may sound funny, but why shouldn't we study the ways we love and enjoy each other? isn't that how we all get here?
in the waiting room...
black star
"respiration"
[spanish speaking woman] escuchela.. la ciudad respirando
(translation of spanish: listen to it.. the city breathing)
[spanish speaking woman] escuchela..
[mos def]
The new moon rode high in the crown of the metropolis
Shinin, like who on top of this?
People was tusslin, arguin and bustlin
Gangstaz of gotham hardcore hustlin
I'm wrestlin with words and ideas
My ears is picky, seekin what will transmit
The scribes can apply to transcript, yo
This ain't no time where the usual is suitable
Tonight alive, let's describe the inscrutable
The indisputable, we new york the narcotic
Strength in metal and fiber optics
Where mercenaries is paid to trade hot stock tips
For profits, thirsty criminals take pockets
Hard knuckles on the second hands of workin class watches
Skyscrapers is colossus, the cost of living
Is preposterous, stay alive, you play or die, no options
No batman and robin, can't tell between
The cops and the robbers, they both partners, they all heartless
With no conscience, back streets stay darkened
Where unbeliever hearts stay hardened
My eagle talons stay sharpened, like city lights stay throbbin
You either make a way or stay sobbin, the shiny apple
Is bruised but sweet and if you choose to eat
You could lose your teeth, many crews retreat
Nightly news repeat, who got shot down and locked down
Spotlight to savages, nasdaq averages
My narrative, rose to explain this existence
Amidst the harbor lights which remain in the distance
So much on my mind that I can't recline
Blastin holes in the night til she bled sunshine
Breathe in, inhale vapors from bright stars that shine
Breathe out, weed smoke retrace the skyline
Heard the bass ride out like an ancient mating call
I can't take it y'all, I can feel the city breathin
Chest heavin, against the flesh of the evening
Sigh before we die like the last train leaving
[talib kweli]
Breathin in deep city breaths, sittin on shitty steps
We stoop to new lows, hell froze the night the city slept
The beast crept through concrete jungles
Communicatin with one another
And ghetto birds where waters fall
From the hydrants to the gutters
The beast walk the beats, but the beats we be makin
You on the wrong side of the track, lookin visibly shaken
Taken them plungers, plungin to death that's painted by the numbers
With crime unapplied pressure, cats is playin god
But havin children by a lesser baby mother but fuck it
We played against each other like puppets, swearin you got pull
When the only pull you got is the wool over your eyes
Gettin knowledge in jail like a blessing in disguise
Look in the skies for god, what you see besides the smog
Is broken dreams flying away on the wings of the obscene
Thoughts that people put in the air
Places where you could get murdered over a glare
But everything is fair
It's a paradox we call reality
So keepin it real will make you casualty of abnormal normality
Killers born naturally like, mickey and mallory
Not knowing the ways'll get you capped like an nba salary
Some cats be emceeing to illustrate what we be seeing
Hard to be a spiritual being when shit is shakin what you believe in
For trees to grow in brooklyn, seeds need to be planted
I'm asking if y'all feel me and the crowd left me stranded
My blood pressure boiled and rose, cause new york niggaz
Actin spoiled at shows, to the winners the spoils go
I take the l, transfer to the 2, head to the gates
New york life type trife the roman empire state
[mos def and crew]
So much on my mind I just can't recline
Blastin holes in the night til she bled sunshine
Breathe in, inhale vapors from bright stars that shine
Breathe out, weed smoke retrace the skyline
Yo don't the bass ride out like an ancient mating call
I can't take it y'all, I can feel the city breathin
Chest heavin, against the flesh of the evening
Sigh before we die like the last train leaving
[common]
Yo...on the amen, corner I stood lookin at my former hood
Felt the spirit in the wind, knew my friend was gone for good
Threw dirt on the casket, the hurt, I couldn't mask it
Mixin down emotions, struggle I hadn't mastered
I choreograph seven steps to heaven
And hell, waiting to exhale and make the bread leavened
Veteran of a cold war it's chica-i-go for
What I know or, what's known
So some days I take the bus home, just to touch home
From the crib I spend months gone
Sat by the window with a clutched dome listenin to shorties cuss long
Young girls with weak minds, but they butt strong
Tried to call, or at least beep the lord, but didn't have a touch-tone
It's a dog-eat-dog world, you gotta mush on
Some of this land I must own
Outta the city, they want us gone
Tearin down the 'jects creatin plush homes
My circumstance is between cabrini and love jones
Surrounded by hate, yet I love home
Ask my God how he thought travellin the world sound
Found it hard to imagine he hadn't been past downtown
It's deep, I heard the city breathe in it's sleep
Of reality I touch, but for me it's hard to keep
Deep, I heard my man breathe in his sleep
Of reality I touch, but for me it's hard to keep
[mos def and crew]
So much on my mind I just can't recline
Blastin holes in the night til she bled sunshine
Breathe in, inhale vapors from bright stars that shine
Breathe out, weed smoke retrace the skyline
Yo how the bass ride out like an ancient mating call
I can't take it y'all, I can feel the city breathing
Chest heavin, against the flesh of the evening
Kiss the ides goodbye, I'm on the last train leaving
12.22.2008
know thyself
today we felt compelled to share this beautiful discourse on love by ms. b.l.u of organik b.l.u.
this was originally posted on myspace, but you can also find this collective and its creatrix at organikblu.com or join their ning network.
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You cannot fully experience love in this life until you know what love is. To "Know Thyself" means to know it at every level, not just your physical and emotional levels. From this foundation you can then truly begin your journey towards a fulfilling relationship with one or many souls.
Every single one of you is a perfect being of love within. We are equal and loving beings who hold the potential to share this love with anyone we so choose. This being understood, let's erase a universal mistake in human thinking: "To have love, we must find love." There is no finding love, only expressing love! To find love suggests we are currently without it, and this is impossible for we are light beings, which are all love.
Let me give you an example of this. We all wake up from time to time and feel happiness or joy at the world (some people feel this all the time, and some once in a lifetime). We bounce out of bed and greet people with more love expressed. Now, we really know the world certainly did not grow more beautiful overnight! What happened is you allowing yourself to let your love flow from within. That is all.
Two or more people do not create love, only express it, depending on their own ability to let love flow from within themselves. You cannot create what already exists in its entirety. What appears to be created is really just two people sharing what is already within themselves and the end result is called a relationship. Ịf one is unable to feel love, it is because he or she is blocking what is within them. Then they mistakenly blame the other person for not being lovable or for creating this block.
The highest mind shares their inner love and takes responsibility for their own inability to feel that love. Do not confuse unlovable behavior with your own inability to express love. The people around you are always doing unloving behavior for they are not aware of their own inner love to some degree. This is why we were given the ability to have children. For this was as close as many of us would get to dealing with unlovable behavior (not following rules, outbursts, unreasonable behavior, etc.) and still expressing love! We could start to see what the expressing of unconditional love looked like. But you create this same situation in a relationship between adults, and bam, the "love" is seemingly gone. It is never gone, just utterly repressed and blocked. We were also given Spiritual Masters in order to observe their unfettered expression of love: Christ and Buddha are two examples. Their ability simply came from seeing all of us as "children" of God. While they may not love our behavior, they never stop loving us. This is Christ Consciousness love.
The reason that the term soul mate is skewed in concept is that people think they can only feel that love with one special person. In fact, they go through life looking for this soul mate and often end it in grave disappointment and reflect this disappointment with less than loving behavior towards their current mate. If we were unfettered with all of our veils, we could love completely anyone. When I go out in public, I do not say, "I will not treat this person with love because they are not my friend, family, or lover." I treat them with the same respect and love as I would my dearest friend, for underneath it all, and at the highest level, they are.
If we were to speak of something that feels like a soul mate love, or a split apart, it is generally this: People can spend many lives and dimensions together by choice. Through these lives they start to resonate more closely with each other. A history is created, and deeply seated emotions are built. Each subsequent life, their ties grow stronger and their desire to be with each other builds and it subconsciously returns. Because what we resonate with we attract, we inevitably will be thrown into each other's paths on this plane. Best friends, extremely close siblings, and yes, even your closest lover, are often these people. I refer to these people as being from the same "soul group." Clusters of souls that resonate with each other, and seek their own company over and over. And within these soul groups can be the closest thing to a soul mate, which is two souls holding the highest desire to express their inner love with each other. You could say this is a soul group within a soul group.
I am speaking ideals here. This is what I, and all of us, hope to aspire to. Do I make mistakes? Or course, and I still do in abundance. But I keep these ideals in my heart and strive for them daily. I am constantly adjusting myself to reflect my higher self. I like to say I'm a Work In Progress! I do get to witness the success of this every so often. I have this girlfriend by the name of Trina that was and is in my soul group. The moment we met, we resonated like I had never resonated with a human being. We chose to be together in every way, including working in the same office at Microsoft for three years! I loved her with no conditions and no blocks. No matter what she said, did or didn't do in our relationship, I loved her. Because of her own blocks and feelings of guilt, she withdrew from much of her circle of acquaintances (including me) and I have not seen her in years. My friends always ask why I keep her picture around the house for she has abandoned me, but I tell them that I love her without conditions. It doesn't matter what she does, only that I love her. Now, while she has shut me out on a physical level, she cannot do this on a subtle level. Her awareness is not yet developed, but mine is. I see her all the time in the higher planes and we talk for hours and she tells me what she is doing. Our desire to be together, as a soul group member, supersedes any conscious block that she has created. And when I come back from a visit with her, I will hear through the grapevine exactly what she was telling me personally in these other places. So you see, her love is always there, but her ability to let it flow became restricted. And yes, I may never see her again in this life, but I know for sure we will in the next....
So remember, you are a being of light comprised of love. To know love is to know thyself. If you seek outside of yourself, it should be to share, not to find.
this was originally posted on myspace, but you can also find this collective and its creatrix at organikblu.com or join their ning network.
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You cannot fully experience love in this life until you know what love is. To "Know Thyself" means to know it at every level, not just your physical and emotional levels. From this foundation you can then truly begin your journey towards a fulfilling relationship with one or many souls.
Every single one of you is a perfect being of love within. We are equal and loving beings who hold the potential to share this love with anyone we so choose. This being understood, let's erase a universal mistake in human thinking: "To have love, we must find love." There is no finding love, only expressing love! To find love suggests we are currently without it, and this is impossible for we are light beings, which are all love.
Let me give you an example of this. We all wake up from time to time and feel happiness or joy at the world (some people feel this all the time, and some once in a lifetime). We bounce out of bed and greet people with more love expressed. Now, we really know the world certainly did not grow more beautiful overnight! What happened is you allowing yourself to let your love flow from within. That is all.
Two or more people do not create love, only express it, depending on their own ability to let love flow from within themselves. You cannot create what already exists in its entirety. What appears to be created is really just two people sharing what is already within themselves and the end result is called a relationship. Ịf one is unable to feel love, it is because he or she is blocking what is within them. Then they mistakenly blame the other person for not being lovable or for creating this block.
The highest mind shares their inner love and takes responsibility for their own inability to feel that love. Do not confuse unlovable behavior with your own inability to express love. The people around you are always doing unloving behavior for they are not aware of their own inner love to some degree. This is why we were given the ability to have children. For this was as close as many of us would get to dealing with unlovable behavior (not following rules, outbursts, unreasonable behavior, etc.) and still expressing love! We could start to see what the expressing of unconditional love looked like. But you create this same situation in a relationship between adults, and bam, the "love" is seemingly gone. It is never gone, just utterly repressed and blocked. We were also given Spiritual Masters in order to observe their unfettered expression of love: Christ and Buddha are two examples. Their ability simply came from seeing all of us as "children" of God. While they may not love our behavior, they never stop loving us. This is Christ Consciousness love.
The reason that the term soul mate is skewed in concept is that people think they can only feel that love with one special person. In fact, they go through life looking for this soul mate and often end it in grave disappointment and reflect this disappointment with less than loving behavior towards their current mate. If we were unfettered with all of our veils, we could love completely anyone. When I go out in public, I do not say, "I will not treat this person with love because they are not my friend, family, or lover." I treat them with the same respect and love as I would my dearest friend, for underneath it all, and at the highest level, they are.
If we were to speak of something that feels like a soul mate love, or a split apart, it is generally this: People can spend many lives and dimensions together by choice. Through these lives they start to resonate more closely with each other. A history is created, and deeply seated emotions are built. Each subsequent life, their ties grow stronger and their desire to be with each other builds and it subconsciously returns. Because what we resonate with we attract, we inevitably will be thrown into each other's paths on this plane. Best friends, extremely close siblings, and yes, even your closest lover, are often these people. I refer to these people as being from the same "soul group." Clusters of souls that resonate with each other, and seek their own company over and over. And within these soul groups can be the closest thing to a soul mate, which is two souls holding the highest desire to express their inner love with each other. You could say this is a soul group within a soul group.
I am speaking ideals here. This is what I, and all of us, hope to aspire to. Do I make mistakes? Or course, and I still do in abundance. But I keep these ideals in my heart and strive for them daily. I am constantly adjusting myself to reflect my higher self. I like to say I'm a Work In Progress! I do get to witness the success of this every so often. I have this girlfriend by the name of Trina that was and is in my soul group. The moment we met, we resonated like I had never resonated with a human being. We chose to be together in every way, including working in the same office at Microsoft for three years! I loved her with no conditions and no blocks. No matter what she said, did or didn't do in our relationship, I loved her. Because of her own blocks and feelings of guilt, she withdrew from much of her circle of acquaintances (including me) and I have not seen her in years. My friends always ask why I keep her picture around the house for she has abandoned me, but I tell them that I love her without conditions. It doesn't matter what she does, only that I love her. Now, while she has shut me out on a physical level, she cannot do this on a subtle level. Her awareness is not yet developed, but mine is. I see her all the time in the higher planes and we talk for hours and she tells me what she is doing. Our desire to be together, as a soul group member, supersedes any conscious block that she has created. And when I come back from a visit with her, I will hear through the grapevine exactly what she was telling me personally in these other places. So you see, her love is always there, but her ability to let it flow became restricted. And yes, I may never see her again in this life, but I know for sure we will in the next....
So remember, you are a being of light comprised of love. To know love is to know thyself. If you seek outside of yourself, it should be to share, not to find.
alternative solstice celebrations/meditations
light and love, y'all.
we know our readers walk a myriad of paths, worship in all forms and fashions, and love abundantly. so why just be confined to carols and egg nog--not to mention the deadly black friday crowds--when you can enjoy a variety of solstice celebrations?
our good friend at incredible juju cited some interesting reflections on this year's solstice.
the wonderful women of casa atabex ache have also offered some lovely alternatives:
for you history honeys out there, here are a few links discussing the origin of christmas, from the christian, pagan, and scholarly points of view.
however you choose to celebrate this time of year, may the season and the new year bring you peace, joy, and all your heart's desires.
in bliss,
your devoted proprietress
we know our readers walk a myriad of paths, worship in all forms and fashions, and love abundantly. so why just be confined to carols and egg nog--not to mention the deadly black friday crowds--when you can enjoy a variety of solstice celebrations?
our good friend at incredible juju cited some interesting reflections on this year's solstice.
the wonderful women of casa atabex ache have also offered some lovely alternatives:
Convey love to family, friends, and everyone in your world, feasting together and exchanging home made presents. Continue this custom by visiting, entertaining, giving gifts, and sending greetings by mail and/or phone. Consider those who are and/or have been important in your life and share appreciation.
Reclaim the holidays, celebrate life. Honor the Goddess as Great Mother. Place Mother Goddess images around your home. You may also want to include one with a Sun child, such as Isis with Horus. Goddess forms traditionally linked with this time of year include Atabex (Puerto Rico, mother of creation), Yemaya,(African goddess of home, fertility, love, family and the New Year), Tonantzin (Native Mexican corn mother), Holda (Teutonic earth goddess of good fortune), Bona Dea (Roman women's goddess of abundance and prophecy), Ops (Roman goddess of plenty), Au Set/Isis (Egyptian/multicultural All Goddess whose worship continued in Christian times under the name Mary), Lucina/St. Lucy (Roman/Swedish goddess/saint of light), and Befana (Italian Witch who gives gifts to children at this season).
Honor the new solar year with light. Do a Solstice Eve ritual in which you meditate in darkness and then welcome the birth of the sun by lighting candles and singing chants and women power songs. If you have a indoor fireplace or an outdoor fire circle, burn an oak log as a Yule log and save a bit to start next year's fire. Decorate the inside and/or outside of your home with electric colored lights. Because of the popularity of five pointed stars as holiday symbols, this is a good time to display a pentagram of blue or white lights.
Contribute to the manifestation of more wellness on Planet Earth. Donate food and clothing to poor in your area. Volunteer time at a social service agency. Put up bird feeders and keep them filled throughout the winter to supplement the diets of wild birds. Donate funds and items to non-profit groups, such as women healing spaces and environmental organizations. Meditate for world peace. Work magic for a healthier planet. Make a pledge to do some form of good works in the new solar year.
for you history honeys out there, here are a few links discussing the origin of christmas, from the christian, pagan, and scholarly points of view.
however you choose to celebrate this time of year, may the season and the new year bring you peace, joy, and all your heart's desires.
in bliss,
your devoted proprietress
12.21.2008
you are normal*. really. we mean it.
note: this blog links to sites containing explicit nudity of the female form and other adult material. click responsibly.
while doing some general web surfing, your devoted proprietress came across sexy labia.com, which contains an article detailing why playboy does not use models with "protruding" labia.
that might also explain why you don't see a lot of non-european women modeling for them, no?
also, while visiting the luminous goddess glory, anti-bra.com was discovered. unfortunately it appears that the pages are no longer updated, but if you've had issues with bras in the past {or have them now}, it's a good place to start researching alternatives.
even your loving author would have thought her girls were horribly droopy and non-compliant had she not been exposed to national geographic at an early age and realized she actually had african-looking breasts. who'd have thought it?
the details surrounding female infantilization and how we're taught what's "normal" for our bodies--not the least of which involves hairless yonis, perfectly taut boobs and safely tucked labia--would take weeks to unravel.
please know that whatever you have, you are normal because your body is your gift. if you're a C on one side and a B on the other and wanna get that dealt with, by all means, do so. just make sure you do it for YOU.
plus, you're grown. barring a bout of alopecia, you're supposed to have hair down there. if you prefer your gateway to heaven bald as a newborn's bottom, go for it. but if you don't and somebody wants to give you hell for it, tell 'em to go find a new one.
and, if all that wasn't enough, go watch some amateur movies**. that oughta teach ya.
*whatever that means...
**google it yourself! {there's plenty out there...}
due to the differing schools of thought on pornography--amateur and pro--we made an executive decision not to link to explicitly pornographic sites from this blog. hm. that sounds like another post...
while doing some general web surfing, your devoted proprietress came across sexy labia.com, which contains an article detailing why playboy does not use models with "protruding" labia.
that might also explain why you don't see a lot of non-european women modeling for them, no?
also, while visiting the luminous goddess glory, anti-bra.com was discovered. unfortunately it appears that the pages are no longer updated, but if you've had issues with bras in the past {or have them now}, it's a good place to start researching alternatives.
even your loving author would have thought her girls were horribly droopy and non-compliant had she not been exposed to national geographic at an early age and realized she actually had african-looking breasts. who'd have thought it?
the details surrounding female infantilization and how we're taught what's "normal" for our bodies--not the least of which involves hairless yonis, perfectly taut boobs and safely tucked labia--would take weeks to unravel.
please know that whatever you have, you are normal because your body is your gift. if you're a C on one side and a B on the other and wanna get that dealt with, by all means, do so. just make sure you do it for YOU.
plus, you're grown. barring a bout of alopecia, you're supposed to have hair down there. if you prefer your gateway to heaven bald as a newborn's bottom, go for it. but if you don't and somebody wants to give you hell for it, tell 'em to go find a new one.
and, if all that wasn't enough, go watch some amateur movies**. that oughta teach ya.
*whatever that means...
**google it yourself! {there's plenty out there...}
due to the differing schools of thought on pornography--amateur and pro--we made an executive decision not to link to explicitly pornographic sites from this blog. hm. that sounds like another post...
12.20.2008
the wisdom of indus kush
today we are honored to bring you a blog written by the illustrious iyalosa apetebii olaomi akalatunde, author of ona agbani: the ancient path, understanding and implementing the ways of our ancestors and the inspirational blog the bliss chronicles. she is also the creatrix of the ose tura institute.
iyalosa olaomi is also a priestess of osun, mother, teacher and all around fly human being.
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One of the early civilizations created by the first humans who evolved in Afrika and eventually migrated out of Afrika and into other parts of the world was known as Indus Kush.
Allow me to quote renowned Afrikan historical scholar Runoko Rashidi from his lecture "The Afrikan Roots of Humanity and Civilization":
Current Indian culture is a mixture of ancient Afrikan culture and the culture forced upon these Afrikans by the invading Aryan Vedics.
Ancient Indian culture, like all Afrikan culture, is gynocentric--meaning it is womb centered and recognizes the vagina, the breasts, the womb and the buttocks of women as sacred and holy and reveres womanhood, motherhood and mothering as the focal point of all life in the Wombniverse.
As such we have the pre-Aryan recognition of Shakti and her centrality to ancient Indian culture and lifestyle. We also see the development of Tantra--a system which is a woman and Goddess centered method of becoming one's highest self through the use of the Feminine Force in the Wombniverse called Kundalini by Indians. Note that the root of Kundalini is KUND meant to be pronounced like CUNT not like KOON as we usually pronounce it in the West. Kundalini is a system revering Pussy Power...as all wise ancients did.
Some of the pre-Vedic writings have survived over time and reveal the depth and intensity of love Our Ancestors possessed for the Divine Mother--The Source of all...below is one of my personal favorites:
*ed. note: as with many sanskrit translations, the single word tantra is something of a misnomer and can encapsulate many things, including the spiritual practice itself, its rituals, etc. you can find more on the role of the goddess in tantra here.
iyalosa olaomi is also a priestess of osun, mother, teacher and all around fly human being.
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One of the early civilizations created by the first humans who evolved in Afrika and eventually migrated out of Afrika and into other parts of the world was known as Indus Kush.
Allow me to quote renowned Afrikan historical scholar Runoko Rashidi from his lecture "The Afrikan Roots of Humanity and Civilization":
Exceptionally valuable writings expressing intimate connections between early India, Egypt and Ethiopia have existed for more than two thousand years. In the first century B.C.E., for example, the famous Greek historian Diodorus Siculus penned that, "From Ethiopia he (Osiris) passed through Arabia, bordering upon the Red Sea as far as to India....He built many cities in India, one of which he called Nysa, willing to have remembrance of that (Nysa) in Egypt where he was brought up." Apollonius of Tyana, who is said to have visited India near the end of the first century C.E., was convinced that "The Ethiopians are colonists sent from India, who follow their forefathers in matters of wisdom." The Itinerarium Alexandri, a Latin work written about 345 C.E. for the Roman emperor Constantius, says that, "India, taken as a whole, beginning from the north and embracing what of it is subject to Persia, is a continuation of Egypt and the Ethiopians.
Current Indian culture is a mixture of ancient Afrikan culture and the culture forced upon these Afrikans by the invading Aryan Vedics.
Ancient Indian culture, like all Afrikan culture, is gynocentric--meaning it is womb centered and recognizes the vagina, the breasts, the womb and the buttocks of women as sacred and holy and reveres womanhood, motherhood and mothering as the focal point of all life in the Wombniverse.
As such we have the pre-Aryan recognition of Shakti and her centrality to ancient Indian culture and lifestyle. We also see the development of Tantra--a system which is a woman and Goddess centered method of becoming one's highest self through the use of the Feminine Force in the Wombniverse called Kundalini by Indians. Note that the root of Kundalini is KUND meant to be pronounced like CUNT not like KOON as we usually pronounce it in the West. Kundalini is a system revering Pussy Power...as all wise ancients did.
Some of the pre-Vedic writings have survived over time and reveal the depth and intensity of love Our Ancestors possessed for the Divine Mother--The Source of all...below is one of my personal favorites:
Shaktisangama Tantra*
Woman is the creator of the universe,
the universe is her form;
woman is the foundation of the world,
she is the true form of the body.
Whatever form she takes,
whether the form of a man or a woman,
is the superior form.
In woman is the form of all things,
of all that lives and moves in the world.
There is no jewel rarer than woman,
no condition superior to that of a woman.
There is not, nor has been, nor will be
any destiny equal to that of a woman;
there is no kingdom, no wealth,
to be compared with a woman.
There is not, nor has been, nor will be
any holy place like unto a woman.
There is no prayer equal to a woman.
There is not, nor has been, nor will be
any yoga to compare with a woman,
no mystical formula nor asceticism
to match a woman.
There is not, nor have been, nor will be
any riches more valuable than woman.
*ed. note: as with many sanskrit translations, the single word tantra is something of a misnomer and can encapsulate many things, including the spiritual practice itself, its rituals, etc. you can find more on the role of the goddess in tantra here.
quickie!
obaa ne oman - adrinka symbol from the akan people of ghana, west africa. literally translated, it means "woman is the nation".
another way of acknowledging that you populate the planet.
12.18.2008
inspiration...
you know what, mes petites? we really are out there.
learning.
living out loud.
striving for beauty.
surviving.
you're not alone, or weird, or aberrant.
you're just waking up. and it's ok.
we'll be here to listen to your dreams...
learning.
living out loud.
striving for beauty.
surviving.
you're not alone, or weird, or aberrant.
you're just waking up. and it's ok.
we'll be here to listen to your dreams...
12.17.2008
i feel, therefore i am
since this is the season for sharing and giving, it's probably a good time to think about anahata or your heart chakra.
of course, your heart is one of your hardest working body parts {if it's not, you've got problems...}, but as an energy center, it also plays an important role in feeling, accepting and giving love.
as with any other energy center, sights, sounds, scents and stones can be used for healing.
there are also correspondences with the meridians of traditional chinese medicine, if that's more your steez:
of course, your heart is one of your hardest working body parts {if it's not, you've got problems...}, but as an energy center, it also plays an important role in feeling, accepting and giving love.
as with any other energy center, sights, sounds, scents and stones can be used for healing.
there are also correspondences with the meridians of traditional chinese medicine, if that's more your steez:
heart chakra imbalances can manifest in relationship problems, selfishness and physical dis-ease like heart problems, stroke and circulatory issues. with optimal function, things like unconditional love, compassion and honesty become routine.
in short, opening your heart is good for your health. try it sometime.
ta-ta for now, beauties!
12.16.2008
in the waiting room...
sade
"feel no pain"
Mamma been laid off
Pappa been laid off
My brother's been laid off
For more than two years now
Ooh can't get a job
Billy can't get a job
Ooh they gotta listen to the blues
Help them to strive
Help them to move on
Help them to have some future
Help them to live long
Help them to live life
Help them to smile
Don't let them stay home and listen to the blues
Pappa been laid off
Mamma been laid off
Billy can't get a job
For too long too long
Don't let them lose
We gotta give them a chance
It's gonna come back on everyone
If you don't make them dance
Don't let them stay home and listen to the blues
There's nothing sacred (why why why))
breathing hatred
We have to face it (why why why)
No one can take it
And feel no pain
Mamma been laid off
Pappa been laid off
My brother's been laid off
For more than two years now
Ooh can't get a job
Billy can't get a job
Ooh they gotta listen to the blues
Help them to strive
Help them to move on
Help them to have some future
Help them to live long
Help them to live life
Help them to smile
Don't let them stay home and listen to the blues
One day we're gonna wake up
And the ghetto's all around
All over my friend
Have you ever seen a man break down
Do you know how that feels
To walk the streets with your head held high
Why, why, why
Oh Lord, have mercy
Did you ever see a man break down
There's nothing sacred
Breathing hatred
We have to face it
No one can take it (how can they take that much)
And feel no pain
Ooh did you ever see a man break down
12.15.2008
quickie!
darlings, please take a moment to visit scarleteen.
this site is perfect for curious tweens and preteens. think of it as the "birds & bees" convo your cool auntie gave you after your mother tried and failed--conveniently stashed online!
there's information on love, sex, std's and everything inbetween.
you can also find a permanent link in the more love sidebar.
this site is perfect for curious tweens and preteens. think of it as the "birds & bees" convo your cool auntie gave you after your mother tried and failed--conveniently stashed online!
there's information on love, sex, std's and everything inbetween.
you can also find a permanent link in the more love sidebar.
12.14.2008
sexy news
'tis the season...blissful gift ideas!
romantic comedies lead to unrealistic expectations...well, duh.
save your marriage with sensual massage!
...wonder if they'll toss that into this catholic tv show's lineup?
classic text the joy of sex is getting an overhaul.
romantic comedies lead to unrealistic expectations...well, duh.
save your marriage with sensual massage!
...wonder if they'll toss that into this catholic tv show's lineup?
classic text the joy of sex is getting an overhaul.
12.13.2008
quickie!
the fabulous tangerine jones shakes her thang thang to the classic babalu
lesson learned: you ain't gotta be a size 0 to kick it.
lesson learned: you ain't gotta be a size 0 to kick it.
12.12.2008
welcome, beloveds!!
imagine our delight when we noticed there were new beloveds among us! please, cuddle up on the chaise with a cashmere throw and have a cup of rose tea. we are thrilled that you have graced us with your presence and hope you're reading regularly. tell a friend or five!
we would like to remind you that we'd love to know what you're reading, what you think of the space, and what you think should be here, so feel free to leave a worshipful reply whenever the spirit moves you.
if there's an event or news story we've overlooked, holla.
furthermore, for those who are not acquainted with her, inspiration is a cruel mistress. please excuse any programming delays as your proprietress and her helpful honeys--yes, hopefully there will be other contributors soon!--have regular ol' 9-5's and 6-10's {darn this recession...}. sometimes we simply can't think of what to say. however, as we are in the business of growth and expansion, we endeavor to bring you new ways to love yourself, life, and love itself as often and as deliciously as possible.
afterglow, giggles & glitter,
ms. bliss
we would like to remind you that we'd love to know what you're reading, what you think of the space, and what you think should be here, so feel free to leave a worshipful reply whenever the spirit moves you.
if there's an event or news story we've overlooked, holla.
furthermore, for those who are not acquainted with her, inspiration is a cruel mistress. please excuse any programming delays as your proprietress and her helpful honeys--yes, hopefully there will be other contributors soon!--have regular ol' 9-5's and 6-10's {darn this recession...}. sometimes we simply can't think of what to say. however, as we are in the business of growth and expansion, we endeavor to bring you new ways to love yourself, life, and love itself as often and as deliciously as possible.
afterglow, giggles & glitter,
ms. bliss
in memoriam: bettie page
one of the iconic pinups has made her transition. bettie page left this plane on december 11th after a december 2nd heart attack left her on life support.
from her la times obit:
Page, whose later life was marked by depression, violent mood swings and several years in a state mental institution, died Thursday night at Kindred Hospital in Los Angeles, where she had been on life support since suffering a heart attack Dec. 2, according to her agent, Mark Roesler.
A cult figure, Page was most famous for the estimated 20,000 4-by-5-inch black-and-white glossy photographs taken by amateur shutterbugs from 1949 to 1957. The photos showed her in high heels and bikinis or negligees, bondage apparel -- or nothing at all.
Decades later, those images inspired biographies, comic books, fan clubs, websites, commercial products -- Bettie Page playing cards, dress-up magnet sets, action figures, Zippo lighters, shot glasses -- and, in 2005, a film about her life and times, "The Notorious Bettie Page."
Then there are the idealized portraits of her naughty personas -- Nurse Bettie, Jungle Bettie, Voodoo Bettie, Banned in Boston Bettie, Maid Bettie, Crackers in Bed Bettie -- memorialized by such artists as Olivia de Berardinis.
"I'll always paint Bettie Page," De Berardinis said Thursday night . "But truth be told, it took me years to understand what I was looking at in the old photographs of her. Now I get it. There was a passion play unfolding in her mind. What some see as a bad-girl image was in fact a certain sensual freedom and play-acting - it was part of the fun of being a woman."
"The origins of what captures the imagination and creates a particular celebrity are sometimes difficult to define," Playboy magazine founder Hugh Hefner said Thursday night. "Bettie Page was one of Playboy magazine's early Playmates, and she became an iconic figure, influencing notions of beauty and fashion. Then she disappeared. . . . Many years later, Bettie resurfaced and we became friends. Her passing is very sad."
In an interview 2 1/2 years ago, Hefner described Page's appeal as "a combination of wholesome innocence and fetish-oriented poses that is at once retro and very modern."
rest well, and stay beautiful.
global orgasm for peace ~ 12.21.2008
yes, you read that right. global orgasm for peace.
why?
there are more reasons under the "3 reasons" tab on the site. there's even a blog.
find out your local O time here.
east coast: 7:04am
west coast: 4:04am
chicago: 6:04am
who says activism isn't blissful?
why?
to effect positive change in the energy field of the Earth through input of the largest possible instantaneous surge of human biological, mental and spiritual energy.
there are more reasons under the "3 reasons" tab on the site. there's even a blog.
find out your local O time here.
east coast: 7:04am
west coast: 4:04am
chicago: 6:04am
who says activism isn't blissful?
12.11.2008
cradle of civilization
hetep, party people. let's take a moment to talk about our wombs, shall we?
this deceptively simple aspect of our anatomy does many things: aligns us with the phases of the moon, works to ensure hormonal balance, centers and informs creativity, populates the planet...
wait.
let that last one marinate for a breath or two. like an asana.
you populate the planet.
now that you've been reminded of this spectacular role, understand that womb health is a process. like most other things, what works for one sista may not work for you, and that's ok.
it is never too late to love your womb.
it does not matter if your womb is physically present or not.
this deceptively simple aspect of our anatomy does many things: aligns us with the phases of the moon, works to ensure hormonal balance, centers and informs creativity, populates the planet...
wait.
let that last one marinate for a breath or two. like an asana.
you populate the planet.
now that you've been reminded of this spectacular role, understand that womb health is a process. like most other things, what works for one sista may not work for you, and that's ok.
it is never too late to love your womb.
it does not matter if your womb is physically present or not.
you can love her if she is infertile. in fact, she could be infertile because you're disconnected.
you do not have to be a mother, nor do you have to desire motherhood. planet population has just as much to do with the birthing and nurturing of art, ideas, words, visions, and concepts as it does babies. all are important, valuable, and necessary.
your moontime does not have to be a painful "curse". in fact, it was never a curse at all. without it, there would be no life. {you.populate.the.planet}
learn which herbs, meditations, stones, sounds, and scents you need. don't fret if your sistagurl's sandalwood & myrrh makes you wanna retch. you might just be more of a lavender and palmarosa kinda chick.
the for the sensual intellectual sidebar includes many resources that can start you on your journey. several of the books deal with women's health, chakra work, and other womb-friendly practices.*
by now, most of our afrikan-centered readers are probably familiar with the wisdom of queen afua. sacred woman is a great way to start or continue on your womb wellness journey, no matter what your starting point.
dr. sunyatta amen is another excellent holistic health practitioner and womb advocate. her bellydancers of color association holds a conference each year.
dr. christiane northrup is author of the classic women's bodies, women's wisdom. she also has a lot to say about menopause, so if you're entering that phase of life or have a beloved crone** who is, you might want to look into her work. there are some who say that having a hysterectomy {spiritually} catapults you into crone status, no matter your age.
suns, if you've wandered in and all this sounds familiar, put your queen on. monthly trouble with her cycle, creative/emotional blockages, a sense of aimlessness...all these could be signs of womb distress.
if this is the first post you've come to, then you probably needed it! let your consciousness drift over the information here, and embrace your path towards a miraculous relationship with your womb! the love and support you need will rush to meet you.
*as stated in our disclaimer, always check with your physician and/or gynecologist before trying any "alternative" methods you may read about here or elsewhere.
12.10.2008
quickie!
free moon module you can post to your blog, myspace page, personal website...wherever! you can even customize the colors.
or, if you prefer, we'moon offers beautiful lunar calendars, date books, etc. makes a great gift for the earth mama on your kwanzaa list.
or, if you prefer, we'moon offers beautiful lunar calendars, date books, etc. makes a great gift for the earth mama on your kwanzaa list.
12.09.2008
sexy news
what we've known all along: joy is contagious!
the economy's bad for lovin'.
a good analysis of female objectification in films.
we have forgotten more than we think: homophobia is the european construct, not homosexuality.
the economy's bad for lovin'.
a good analysis of female objectification in films.
we have forgotten more than we think: homophobia is the european construct, not homosexuality.
12.08.2008
in the waiting room...
brand new heavies
"i don't know why"
{originally by stevie wonder}
I don't know why I love you
I don't know why I love you
I don't know why I love you
But I love you
Always treat me like a fool
Kick me when I'm down that's your rule
I don't know why I love you
But I love you
Oh you never stop your
Cheatin ways with another guy
You laugh in my face
Lord how long must I be disgraced
Cause I love you
Oh baby, baby, baby
I don't know why I love you
I don't know
You and me baby, oh
I don't know why I love you baby
But I love you baby
Oh darlin, darlin, darlin
You throw my heart down in the dirt
You made me crawl on
This cold black earth, baby
No I never, I never knew
How much love could hurt
Until I loved you baby
Till I loved you baby, baby
Oh baby, I can't stop
I can't stop crying can't you see
Here I'm pleadin on my knees
I'm on my knees
Won't you help me, help me please
Cause I love you, I love you baby
Sure enough, baby, yeah
I don't know, you don't know
We don't know none of us
Can't do nothing about it
I don't know, I don't know
Oh baby, I don't know, I don't know
Nobody can do nothing about it
12.07.2008
12.06.2008
a higher vibration
greetings & salutations, beautiful people.
your friendly goddesses here at the maison de sucre have discovered a disturbing trend that we felt the need to share with our lovely guests.
while canvassing the web for sexy news, it became clear that the negativity surrounding love, relationships, and partnership in the united snakes* is clear, present and prolific.
no wonder the divorce rate's so high, the babies are struggling, and antidepressants are selling like ginseng and jyotishmati oughta be.
we've got to do better. where's the love?!?!?? you might find it in blogs and books, but where's the media dialogue on how we can become bigger, better, faster, stronger microcosms of the macrocosm**?
we all need love, whether it's from family, friends, or lovers. love prompts activism. love fuels change. when you love unconditionally and fully, from a place of security and understanding, you open spiritually and your reality becomes a vastly different place.
so, do something. now. no picket sign necessary.
pleasure yourself.
compliment a stranger.
hug someone you love. or find this guy.
do something good for your 'hood.
kiss a baby.
if you feel you cannot love, heal.
blessed as we are, good news about how we're gettin' down shouldn't be a needle in a haystack.
go out and make that news, sugarpies. pretty please?
*we are, after all, down with the red, black and green.
**oh. you didn't know you were a star, star?
your friendly goddesses here at the maison de sucre have discovered a disturbing trend that we felt the need to share with our lovely guests.
while canvassing the web for sexy news, it became clear that the negativity surrounding love, relationships, and partnership in the united snakes* is clear, present and prolific.
no wonder the divorce rate's so high, the babies are struggling, and antidepressants are selling like ginseng and jyotishmati oughta be.
we've got to do better. where's the love?!?!?? you might find it in blogs and books, but where's the media dialogue on how we can become bigger, better, faster, stronger microcosms of the macrocosm**?
we all need love, whether it's from family, friends, or lovers. love prompts activism. love fuels change. when you love unconditionally and fully, from a place of security and understanding, you open spiritually and your reality becomes a vastly different place.
so, do something. now. no picket sign necessary.
pleasure yourself.
compliment a stranger.
hug someone you love. or find this guy.
do something good for your 'hood.
kiss a baby.
if you feel you cannot love, heal.
blessed as we are, good news about how we're gettin' down shouldn't be a needle in a haystack.
go out and make that news, sugarpies. pretty please?
*we are, after all, down with the red, black and green.
**oh. you didn't know you were a star, star?
12.04.2008
12.03.2008
bejeweled
in the interest of promoting sensual enlightenment, your devoted proprietress felt she would be remiss if she did not suggest that all the empresses out there consider crafting or purchasing a set of waist beads.
of course, they are de rigueur for our professional temptresses, but afrikan women have used these beads for everything from enticement {imagine a human shekere or tambourine...} to spiritual protection.
they also promote a very specific level of sensual awareness essential for boosting one's swagger.
it doesn't matter if you're 120 or 220 lbs--this is a pleasurable gift you can give yourself. it's completely up to you whether, when, and how you share it.
if you're so inclined, go on and string them up yourself. small glass beads* on a simple but quality cotton thread are best.
if crafting is not your steez, go and get you some.
once you've gotten used to wearing them, you'll wonder how you ever got along without them.
you can thank us later.
peace!
*e or seed beads. see these examples.
of course, they are de rigueur for our professional temptresses, but afrikan women have used these beads for everything from enticement {imagine a human shekere or tambourine...} to spiritual protection.
they also promote a very specific level of sensual awareness essential for boosting one's swagger.
it doesn't matter if you're 120 or 220 lbs--this is a pleasurable gift you can give yourself. it's completely up to you whether, when, and how you share it.
if you're so inclined, go on and string them up yourself. small glass beads* on a simple but quality cotton thread are best.
if crafting is not your steez, go and get you some.
once you've gotten used to wearing them, you'll wonder how you ever got along without them.
you can thank us later.
peace!
*e or seed beads. see these examples.
in the waiting room...
debarge
"stay with me"
Baby you can't go on
wondering where you belong
Let me help you find yourself
You don't need nobody else
Aw, you should be right with me babe,
Instead of going around this frantic town
and start messin' around
With all the lonely, lonely people out there
No one to care, won't you come stay with me
because I love you so
You tell me you love me so
Why do you have to go
Everything you'll ever need
You will find right here with me
Aw, you should be
Aw, you should be right with me babe,
Instead of going around this frantic town and start messin' around
With all the lonely, lonely people out there
No one to care, won't you come stay with me because I love you so
Stay with me, stay with me, stay with me
Stay with me, stay with me, stay with me
Stay with me, stay with me, stay with me
Aw, you should be with me babe,
Aw, you shouldn't go nowhere
And all I'm trying to tell you babe,
Is happiness is waiting for you
So won't you stay with me,
Stay with me
So won't you stay with me,
Stay with me
I got what you need,
Stay with me
So won't you stay with me
Stay with me
Don't don't nowhere baby, don't go no, no
Oh, I got what you need
So won't you stay with me
Stay with me
Don't go, don't go, I love you so
Don't go, don't go, I love you so
Don't go, don't go, I love you so
sexy news
an interesting take on redheads, and an evenhanded response.
uk survey reveals disturbing teen sexual abuse trends
be happier or have more sex? hmmm...can't retirees have both?
hip hop = violence, now avatars = divorce, apparently.
living and loving
uk survey reveals disturbing teen sexual abuse trends
be happier or have more sex? hmmm...can't retirees have both?
hip hop = violence, now avatars = divorce, apparently.
living and loving
12.02.2008
get yours.
allow me to introduce ms. christa bell performing her piece, "if you don't come".
consider yourselves schooled.
consider yourselves schooled.
be a g.
greetings & salutations, lovelies.
we're already almost a full decade into the 21st century, so i'm hoping that anyone old enough to patronize the bohemian bliss boudoir is well aware that the g-spot (or, grafenberg spot, if you wanna get clinical) does exist, and that female ejaculation--while not highly visible, typically--is a scientifically documented phenomenon.
a quick google search even revealed some youtube footage of...well, who knows what. go find out.
if you're a fan of keepin' it real, alexyss tylor will hook you up. there's bound to be some commentary on all this in there somewhere. it's probably safe to infer that her references to "the bottom" have something to do with the g-spot, since hittin' the cervix will typically get you a punch in the face.
the point? the truth is out there. seek it.
kings: if you don't know the best way to hit your queen's sweet spot, find out. now. if you are in the know and she is woefully unaware, please put her on. when she can speak again, she'll thank you. trust me.
queens: if your consort is a great guy who's missing that special something, put him on. there are lots of ways to get there; don't be afraid of hands (trim those nails! you know better!), g-spot centered toys, veggies, etc and so on. figure it out yourself so you can teach him later. if you feel like it. i wouldn't blame you if you wanted to keep it your little secret.*
please understand that a porn star physique is not required. if length is an issue, prop yourselves up. pillows are your friend. so are yoga blocks & belts. experiment. get outta the bedroom and onto some sturdy chairs, tables...creativity is your friend.
and, as a cyber-acquaintance used to say, "you can never have enough lube".**
as always, remember that each of us are unique wonders of creation. g-spots are generally in the same position from woman to woman, but there are variations. some are pronounced and easily accessed. others might require some deep sea pearl diving.
finally, arousal is key. if you're new to this, please know it is not an undertaking for the after-the-club quickie. your first weekend away together? definitely. take your time, breathe, and bliss out.
as always, the sugar shack wishes you lascivious lovin and outstanding orgasms.
peace & blessings!
*you will not pee on yourself. that feeling means it's working. roll with it. rise above it. breathe through it. it will pass.
**something with a water or silicone base is best. k-y will do in a pinch, but is NOT meant for prolonged sensual encounters. the links to babeland and a woman's touch on the right hand menu can offer more information.
we're already almost a full decade into the 21st century, so i'm hoping that anyone old enough to patronize the bohemian bliss boudoir is well aware that the g-spot (or, grafenberg spot, if you wanna get clinical) does exist, and that female ejaculation--while not highly visible, typically--is a scientifically documented phenomenon.
a quick google search even revealed some youtube footage of...well, who knows what. go find out.
if you're a fan of keepin' it real, alexyss tylor will hook you up. there's bound to be some commentary on all this in there somewhere. it's probably safe to infer that her references to "the bottom" have something to do with the g-spot, since hittin' the cervix will typically get you a punch in the face.
the point? the truth is out there. seek it.
kings: if you don't know the best way to hit your queen's sweet spot, find out. now. if you are in the know and she is woefully unaware, please put her on. when she can speak again, she'll thank you. trust me.
queens: if your consort is a great guy who's missing that special something, put him on. there are lots of ways to get there; don't be afraid of hands (trim those nails! you know better!), g-spot centered toys, veggies, etc and so on. figure it out yourself so you can teach him later. if you feel like it. i wouldn't blame you if you wanted to keep it your little secret.*
please understand that a porn star physique is not required. if length is an issue, prop yourselves up. pillows are your friend. so are yoga blocks & belts. experiment. get outta the bedroom and onto some sturdy chairs, tables...creativity is your friend.
and, as a cyber-acquaintance used to say, "you can never have enough lube".**
as always, remember that each of us are unique wonders of creation. g-spots are generally in the same position from woman to woman, but there are variations. some are pronounced and easily accessed. others might require some deep sea pearl diving.
finally, arousal is key. if you're new to this, please know it is not an undertaking for the after-the-club quickie. your first weekend away together? definitely. take your time, breathe, and bliss out.
as always, the sugar shack wishes you lascivious lovin and outstanding orgasms.
peace & blessings!
*you will not pee on yourself. that feeling means it's working. roll with it. rise above it. breathe through it. it will pass.
**something with a water or silicone base is best. k-y will do in a pinch, but is NOT meant for prolonged sensual encounters. the links to babeland and a woman's touch on the right hand menu can offer more information.
11.29.2008
11.26.2008
in the waiting room...
Beautiful otherness
Love you because of this
Lost in the loveliness
Of your beautiful otherness
Beautiful otherness
I found myself rodderless
You gave me foreverness
And your beautiful otherness
yeah, yeah, yeah
Beautiful otherness
Beautiful otherness
Beautiful otherness
Kind hearts and coronets
Safe in the warm caress
Of your beautiful otherness
Yeah, yeah, yeah
Beautiful otherness
Ah yeah
When you're right, when you're right,
When you're right, right, right with me
In your, your beautiful
Beautiful otherness
So very beautiful to me
It's your, it's your beautiful otherness
Beautiful otherness
Otherness
Beautiful otherness
Beautiful otherness
When you're right, when you're right
When you're right, right, right with me
Beautiful otherness
When you're right, when you're right,
When you're right, right, right with me
11.23.2008
11.21.2008
sexy news
love school!
still can't get married, but online dating just got a little easier: eharmony must offer same-sex dating option.
pay to play: britain cracks down on prostitution, and guardian readers respond.
ad nauseum: the size question, scientifically.
still can't get married, but online dating just got a little easier: eharmony must offer same-sex dating option.
pay to play: britain cracks down on prostitution, and guardian readers respond.
ad nauseum: the size question, scientifically.
11.20.2008
11.15.2008
seek the goddess
the mother of us all. the first manifestation of the divine.
if you want bliss...
she's got magic, too...
she'll transform your rage...
and heal with her compassion...
oh, yes, darlings. she lives.
in order of appearance:
uzume - japanese (laughter, humor)
oshun - yoruba (fertility, sweet waters, abundance, bliss, magic)
yemonja - yoruba (salt water/ocean, universal mother, dreams, moon)
ma'at - kemet (reciprocity, justice, highest self)
het heru - kemet (love, bliss, fertility)
drapeau for erzulie freda - haitian vodoun (romantic love, magic, material wealth)
bast - kemet (sun goddess, secrets, women, mirth/joy)
oya - yoruba (wind/breath, warrior goddess, lightning/thunder and storms)
auset - kemet (universal mother, magic)
hecate - greco/roman (crossroads, magic)
pele - hawaiian (volcano goddess)
sekhmet - kemet (warrior goddess, destruction)
quan yin - china (bodhisattva of compassion)
gaia - greece (earth goddess archetype)
if you want bliss...
she's got magic, too...
she'll transform your rage...
and heal with her compassion...
oh, yes, darlings. she lives.
in order of appearance:
uzume - japanese (laughter, humor)
oshun - yoruba (fertility, sweet waters, abundance, bliss, magic)
yemonja - yoruba (salt water/ocean, universal mother, dreams, moon)
ma'at - kemet (reciprocity, justice, highest self)
het heru - kemet (love, bliss, fertility)
drapeau for erzulie freda - haitian vodoun (romantic love, magic, material wealth)
bast - kemet (sun goddess, secrets, women, mirth/joy)
oya - yoruba (wind/breath, warrior goddess, lightning/thunder and storms)
auset - kemet (universal mother, magic)
hecate - greco/roman (crossroads, magic)
pele - hawaiian (volcano goddess)
sekhmet - kemet (warrior goddess, destruction)
quan yin - china (bodhisattva of compassion)
gaia - greece (earth goddess archetype)
11.14.2008
sexy news
priest refuses communion for obama voters...whatever happened to rendering unto caesar and all that?
lesbians in malaysia speak out...makes you wonder what the indigenous/original cultural response to gblt folks was...
score one for pleasure! mexico's giving out free viagra! (watch out for that blue vision, tho)
looks like this discovery came too late, but lip magazine still has a ton of goodies on their site...
what's it gonna take??!?!?! have the talk already...tyra episode highlights risky teen behavior.
lesbians in malaysia speak out...makes you wonder what the indigenous/original cultural response to gblt folks was...
score one for pleasure! mexico's giving out free viagra! (watch out for that blue vision, tho)
looks like this discovery came too late, but lip magazine still has a ton of goodies on their site...
what's it gonna take??!?!?! have the talk already...tyra episode highlights risky teen behavior.
pleasure principle
ok, babies. let's talk about some serious life stuff right now--feeling delicious.
no, not herbal enhancements or even brownies--although either's cool if that's how you get down. this is about true, deep down, toe curling, smiling at nothing in the middle of a three hour meeting type pleasure.
ain't about whether you've got a man or woman. actually, your vibration needs to hum a little higher if you're gonna get that bliss you've been craving. so here are a few ways to get that glow:
eat what you want, when you want--but listen to your body.
sing for no reason.
smile at the sunrise.
put flowers on your desk.
learn how to shine.
laugh at shit THEY tell you should be taken "seriously".
have chocolate before breakfast.
love yourself. love yourself. love yourself.
that includes not taking any shit.
seriously.
love other people.
be generous in whatever way(s) you can afford.
think beyond payday. you are not your job, car, clothes, or money. own that truth. take care of business, but understand that fact to your core.
google everything.
turn off the tv.
read the paper.
google again.
watch independent movies.
shut down your little hater.
turn off the radio, too. listen to what they're playing in cd stores and before live shows instead.
read.
buy books whenever possible, but borrow them if you can't.
go into your local boho bookstore. they won't bite.
read to your kids.
your family members.
write.
record your dreams.
...you feel me?
leave some worshipful replies, beauties. let's deal in pleasure power and get each other blissed out. write your own bliss list! holla back so we can link to your loveliness.
...of course, our goal is to engage you in your fantasticness. so you're welcome to sit back, relax, and take it all in, but it's so much more fun if you participate.
ankh, wedja, seneb!
no, not herbal enhancements or even brownies--although either's cool if that's how you get down. this is about true, deep down, toe curling, smiling at nothing in the middle of a three hour meeting type pleasure.
ain't about whether you've got a man or woman. actually, your vibration needs to hum a little higher if you're gonna get that bliss you've been craving. so here are a few ways to get that glow:
eat what you want, when you want--but listen to your body.
sing for no reason.
smile at the sunrise.
put flowers on your desk.
learn how to shine.
laugh at shit THEY tell you should be taken "seriously".
have chocolate before breakfast.
love yourself. love yourself. love yourself.
that includes not taking any shit.
seriously.
love other people.
be generous in whatever way(s) you can afford.
think beyond payday. you are not your job, car, clothes, or money. own that truth. take care of business, but understand that fact to your core.
google everything.
turn off the tv.
read the paper.
google again.
watch independent movies.
shut down your little hater.
turn off the radio, too. listen to what they're playing in cd stores and before live shows instead.
read.
buy books whenever possible, but borrow them if you can't.
go into your local boho bookstore. they won't bite.
read to your kids.
your family members.
write.
record your dreams.
...you feel me?
leave some worshipful replies, beauties. let's deal in pleasure power and get each other blissed out. write your own bliss list! holla back so we can link to your loveliness.
...of course, our goal is to engage you in your fantasticness. so you're welcome to sit back, relax, and take it all in, but it's so much more fun if you participate.
ankh, wedja, seneb!
11.10.2008
11.08.2008
sexy news
debunking cockblocking stereotypes: the real deal on native american sexuality
good ol' american schizophrenia: gay marriage bans hold up around the nation
for the (secure) fellas: prostate 101
from the looking glass: a man discusses pussy power
and, well, i guess it didn't hurt...
good ol' american schizophrenia: gay marriage bans hold up around the nation
for the (secure) fellas: prostate 101
from the looking glass: a man discusses pussy power
and, well, i guess it didn't hurt...
11.03.2008
10.29.2008
sexy news
a man after my own heart...kevin smith does it again...
what's NOT hot. at all...female vets suffering from sexual trauma.
another reason to get tested.
save the tatas...breast cancer awareness month is almost over, but that isn't a pass to stop working. you can even recycle a bra for the cause.
what's NOT hot. at all...female vets suffering from sexual trauma.
another reason to get tested.
save the tatas...breast cancer awareness month is almost over, but that isn't a pass to stop working. you can even recycle a bra for the cause.
in the waiting room...
I see the way you look at me
As if to say its right
I pray for you day in and day out
Something's happening to me
The man I used to be is gone
He gave up his life
So I could go on
Girl, on in heaven
Where the love of a lifetime resides
In you
Girl there's heaven in you babe
Oh Girl and it's so meant to be
This place where two souls collide
There's no pain, no fear, only you and I
Something's happening to me
The man I used to be is gone
He gave up his life
So I could go on and on
Girl, on in heaven
Where the love of a lifetime resides
Somewhere in you girl
I've been looking for heaven baby
See I spent my lifetime only to find
Heaven's in you, girl
Heaven's in you baby
Here I spent a lifetime
Trying to find heaven yeah
Umm Girl yeah
Oh, oh girl
Searching my lifetime
Trying to find heaven yeah
Umm Baby
Gotta find you
Come on girl
Heaven's in you baby
Yeah it's right there
Inside your heart baby Ooh Girl
I've been looking for heaven baby
Where the love of a lifetime yeah,
It resides somewhere in you girl.
I've been looking for heaven babe
See I spent my lifetime
Trying to find it
Eah yeah, eah yeah
I, I oooh girl
I want you baby
I want to give my love to you
Yeah Baby
Heaven's right there in your heart girl
Heaven's inside of you
Heaven's inside of you
Yeah eah.
Heaven's in you
Heaven's in you babe
It's right there
On the inside
Heaven's in you girl
You're like heaven
You're the love of a lifetime
And I find my strength in you
10.28.2008
the grand tour
greetings and salutations...welcome back. please remove your shoes before entering. we have a variety of vegan sandals you can wear while you explore the house...
we hope you enjoy the music wafting through our luxurious waiting room. it may not be what you hear on the radio, but we hope it will set the tone for your visit.
to begin, overstand that we want you to read, but also to speak. feel free to leave a worshipful reply--typically known as a comment. there are links at the close of each entry.
now, if you will, please look to your right where you will note several items of interest.
first, just in case your vibrational level has not yet been attuned to our chakral biorhythms--i.e., you don't know what the hell we're talking about--you'll find answers to some of your questions under woman, wtf...?. if you have a question we haven't answered, please whisper it in our ear. we won't bite unless you ask.
{don't worry--after a few sessions, you'll wonder how you ever lived without that luscious kundalini tingle at the base of your spine.}
we also know of some wonderful goodies for sale, as well as some spots you can cruise for more love like ours. please note the disclaimer and browse responsibly.
the serious side speaks for itself. if you know of other resources that might be of interest, please share the wealth.
we are all about the whole person here at the sugar shack. while we will rock your body, we haven't neglected intellectual stimulation. after a long day, you may just want to cuddle up to one of our divine seductresses and have her read from your favorite cheikh anta diop work. we got you. for the sensual intellectual will take you higher*. check back often for new selections, and feel free to leave us suggestions for more.
beloveds lets you know who's following us, and might earn you a new friend or two. don't be shy...come along for the ride.
we hope this tour was helpful. as always, we encourage you to cum often and with a smile.
ankh, wedja, seneb!
*word to b. scott
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