sexy news

organic sex? sounds good to us!

is this all too triflin and confused*, or a step in the right direction? ...lds and gay members

sounds like common sense, right? but we all know that's not so common...


*reference at about the 5:20 mark.

when sex becomes offensive

{note: slight trigger warning. no graphic content, but discussion of sex offense laws & news articles follow}

well. here's a complex issue for ya...

i think we can all agree on the need to protect folks from pedophiles and rapists. but the lack of nuance in some sex offender laws is in need of examination.

for instance, should ALL statutory rape cases be covered, or only those that are actually non-consensual and/or involve a pattern of behavior? cases like this one are popping up all over the country.

"sexting" is another problematic area. by no means are we condoning bullying or saying it's ok for teens to harm each other sexually, but facing the possibility of being labeled a lifelong "sex offender" over the 21st century version of a slambook is, at the very least, extreme.

so, what's the answer?

do we add this to the long list of reasons comprehensive sex education is sorely needed? 

are we, as usual, using a sledgehammer to hang a portrait? asking the wrong questions? 

if we dealt fully and well with the issue of childhood sexual abuse and abusive behavior in general, how many pedophiles/rapists could we avoid creating? 

love for haiti / amor pour ayiti

yanvalou dance from haiti...celebrating the rada nation



to learn more about how you can help haiti, see the help haiti/aidez ayiti section that's been added to the sidebar at the top left of the screen.  

vive l'ayiti! l'union fait la force!

blaming the victim in dubai

disclaimer: we understand the sun is essentially britain's equivalent to the new york post, and that the reporting here is filled with almost as many "-isms" as the story itself.

but this incident is so indicative of the ways in which kyriarchy and the repression of full and healthy sexuality hurts everyone while simultaneously empowering dangerous, pathological behavior that we had to share.

A British [cis] woman on a break in Dubai went to police after being raped - but SHE was arrested for having illegal sex.

The 23-year-old Londoner was attacked by a waiter in a hotel toilet after celebrating her engagement to her boyfriend with drinks.

But after she admitted boozing and sharing a hotel room with her fiancé, cops in the strict Islamic state arrested her for "illegal drinking" outside licensed premises and having sex outside marriage.

Her 44-year-old fiancé, also from London, was charged with the same offences. And both were thrown in police cells by officers who paid little heed to the rape. [note added - presumed due to noted fear of pregnancy]

plus, you'd think people of faith would be more compassionate to the suffering of others, not to mention fully devoted to the overall uplift of those who carry the future of the culture, i.e., the feminine principle.

but that's a whole other conversation.

sexy news

from the guttmacher institute, a wealth of information on healthy sexuality: relationships, intimacy and sexual behavior.

the huffington post speaks out on the double victimization of girls in the juvenile justice system.

america shows her puritan roots just in time for thanks-taking.

and, last but not least, lothario victory in korea!

sexy news

another protestant split on the horizon? lutherans debating possibility of gay clergy...

let's all show the condom some love. {for the latex sensitive, oyin has done some footwork for you}

hiv is tragic for an asian family...

a therapist offers some tips for life after divorce.

sexy news

got penis questions? read this.

masters & johnson book hits the shelves.

clearly, gay marriage won't work. clearly. {wtf? those are some wack "facts"}

finally - a decently realistic look at love.

nuns teaching abstinence. guess that's not news...

sexy news

love it or hate it, steve harvey's getting press.

might as well be yourself. experts speak out on the "ex-gay" phenomenon.

"all of these people running around here jumping, skipping, falling in love…falling in love ain’t shit. Somebody talk to me, PLEASE, about how to stay there…" -dude from love jones. ok, here you go.

christian/hetero-centered, but the categories work: the four types of intercourse.

don't believe the hype

what have you bought into?
how much will it cost to buy you out?
~saul williams

almost lumped this article in with the last installment of sexy news, but it seemed necessary to delve a little deeper.

admittedly, the article is from britain, so there's a cultural difference. but judging from the results when searching google news for "love and relationships", we're probably not far off.

it's intriguing how one can reach adulthood without encountering enough differences in body types/standards of beauty to shatter any thoughts of an "ideal body" image.

granted, this could be a blessing of growing up black. while there is evidence that the body image gap is narrowing, your proprietress learned early on that there was no point in trying to achieve the "ideal" because that wasn't what {my} boys/men liked anyway. the first time her desirability was challenged was in college.

is this a consequence of always being "plugged in"? if so, it is a shame that along with the influx of information and increased connectivity that our media outlets provide, we've been transformed into lemmings who believe that whatever is on the tv/movie screen is representative of a high ideal we all need to achieve--even when we know the image is a result of surgery and photoshop magic.

what happened to the days when tv was just tv
movies were movies
and life was life?

we implore you: please step away from the porn and the retouched king and playboy mags. go out and love some real people with some body hair whose only makeup in the morning is the sunlight streaking across their face.

thanks.

sexy news

hopefully v-day doesn't get you down, but this might help you overcome valentine's day depression.

and just in case your date turns in to something more, ecuadorian "gravity births" could teach us something.

always grateful for inclusion: sex and disability. bonus link - david steinberg's photos.

apparently love ain't easy in taiwan.

quickie!

democracy now! does a feature on women and war, focusing on the crisis in the congo.

to learn more, you can visit wikipedia for a recent timeline or see a ngo perspective here.

sexy news

brain sex, huh? while we agree that the brain is the sexiest organ, dead prez kinda coined that phrase years ago, mr. research man.

not cute: it seems that several areas are seeing a rise in teen dating violence. also, this past week was teen dating violence awareness and prevention week.

did you know? february is national condom month!

obligatory love day mention: recession-proof v-day ideas.

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mama's still a woman...an excerpt from love in the time of colic

a note on the long haul...depression or disappointment?

obama ain't the only one in love...how love fueled this man's spiritual journey.

erotophile or erotophobe? of course, we're all leaning towards the former distinction around here, but this could give you some good questions to ask your date friday night...

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hmm. no comment on this one...rethinking the student/pupil taboo

new anthology...behind the bedroom door

can an affair be a good thing? another no comment...conference lovin' puts a spark back in married life

why don't they just give her a scarlet letter?

sigh.

this speaks to so many levels of sexism, dominance, oppression, spiritual fraud and misogyny that it's difficult to even know where to begin.

if she'd committed murder, or stolen from the children's hospital, or abused an elder...ok.

but exercising her right as a grown woman in her bed and her house?

nah. you coulda handled that in the pastor's office.

michael k probably got it right: somebody's mad they got turned down...

in memoriam

the shack would like to take a moment to mark the passing of a bastion of sensuality, eartha kitt.

her talent allowed her to turn a strife and rejection filled beginning into a life brimming with elegance, glamour and class.

enjoy your rest, mama eartha. may you be welcomed in the next realm.

sexy news

typically we don't like to highlight the negative, but these two things bore mentioning this morning...

apparently turning gays straight is like saving the rainforest. really?

because that always "turns" 'em...doesn't it? lesbian gang raped in california.

sexy news

'tis the season...blissful gift ideas!

romantic comedies lead to unrealistic expectations...well, duh.

save your marriage with sensual massage!

...wonder if they'll toss that into this catholic tv show's lineup?

classic text the joy of sex is getting an overhaul.

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what we've known all along: joy is contagious!

the economy's bad for lovin'.

a good analysis of female objectification in films.

we have forgotten more than we think: homophobia is the european construct, not homosexuality.

a higher vibration

greetings & salutations, beautiful people.

your friendly goddesses here at the maison de sucre have discovered a disturbing trend that we felt the need to share with our lovely guests.

while canvassing the web for sexy news, it became clear that the negativity surrounding love, relationships, and partnership in the united snakes* is clear, present and prolific.

no wonder the divorce rate's so high, the babies are struggling, and antidepressants are selling like ginseng and jyotishmati oughta be.

we've got to do better. where's the love?!?!?? you might find it in blogs and books, but where's the media dialogue on how we can become bigger, better, faster, stronger microcosms of the macrocosm**?

we all need love, whether it's from family, friends, or lovers. love prompts activism. love fuels change. when you love unconditionally and fully, from a place of security and understanding, you open spiritually and your reality becomes a vastly different place.

so, do something. now. no picket sign necessary.

pleasure yourself.
compliment a stranger.
hug someone you love. or find this guy.
do something good for your 'hood.
kiss a baby.
if you feel you cannot love, heal.

blessed as we are, good news about how we're gettin' down shouldn't be a needle in a haystack.

go out and make that news, sugarpies. pretty please?




*we are, after all, down with the red, black and green.
**oh. you didn't know you were a star, star?