porn is one thing. and just about everyone loves a good parody.
but this {link not work safe} not the cosbys thing seems to be crossing a line...
the least they could have done was consider a parody of a show where all the characters are grown folks, e.g. sanford and son or roc.
aren't there already enough "teen" porn sites out there?
do we really need to play with the idea of pedophilia when childhood sexual abuse is rampant?
is this dangerous in a culture where, even in the 21st century, no one wants to talk about effective, comprehensive, age-appropriate sex education?
we're all for grown folks having grown folks fun, but this feels like something very, very different.
6.07.2009
6.06.2009
6.05.2009
celebrate, love and honor your cycle
would have labeled this a quickie, but it really is so, so much more.
it is essential that all of us--women especially, but also the men that love us--reopen to the fact that our menstrual cycle is just as important and powerful as the changing of the seasons and the phases of the moon, including recalling the true intentions around menstrual "taboos" and seclusion.
you owe it to yourself to check out diva mama tonya and her you tube channel.
it is essential that all of us--women especially, but also the men that love us--reopen to the fact that our menstrual cycle is just as important and powerful as the changing of the seasons and the phases of the moon, including recalling the true intentions around menstrual "taboos" and seclusion.
you owe it to yourself to check out diva mama tonya and her you tube channel.
6.04.2009
in the waiting room...
a praise song for oshun
sung by ella andall
OLA N GA LA FILA FI OSUN
OLA N GA LA FILA FUN YEYE
OLA N GA LA FERE KAYERE
OSUN GA LA FILA FUN YEYE
The one who commands wealth like a crown is Osun
Wealth is commanded like a crown for my Mother
She commands wealth like our Mother's crown
TALADE OSUN, TALADE OLOMI (OSUN TALADE)
TALADE YEYE, TALADE OLODO
TALADE, TALADE, OLORI
OSE REMI KUMERE YEYE
Osun is the owner of the crown
The crown is benefiting the ruler of water
(Oshun owns the crown)
My Mother owns the crown,
the crown is benefiting the owner of the rivers
The one who owns the crown is the queen
We give thanks to my friend,
My Mother who makes good of blessings.
OSUN ME GBA IBEJI LO
IBEJI LO YEYE OSUN
OSUN ME GBA IBEJI LO
Osun take me so that I may have twins
Let twins come, Mother Osun
Osun take me so that I may have twins
OSUN ME BA IBEJI LO
IBEJI LO GUL OSUN
OSUN ME BA IBEJI LO
Osun helps me to have twins
May twins come Osun
Oshun helps me have twins.
{thanks to filho de logunede for the lyrics & translation.}
sung by ella andall
OLA N GA LA FILA FI OSUN
OLA N GA LA FILA FUN YEYE
OLA N GA LA FERE KAYERE
OSUN GA LA FILA FUN YEYE
The one who commands wealth like a crown is Osun
Wealth is commanded like a crown for my Mother
She commands wealth like our Mother's crown
TALADE OSUN, TALADE OLOMI (OSUN TALADE)
TALADE YEYE, TALADE OLODO
TALADE, TALADE, OLORI
OSE REMI KUMERE YEYE
Osun is the owner of the crown
The crown is benefiting the ruler of water
(Oshun owns the crown)
My Mother owns the crown,
the crown is benefiting the owner of the rivers
The one who owns the crown is the queen
We give thanks to my friend,
My Mother who makes good of blessings.
OSUN ME GBA IBEJI LO
IBEJI LO YEYE OSUN
OSUN ME GBA IBEJI LO
Osun take me so that I may have twins
Let twins come, Mother Osun
Osun take me so that I may have twins
OSUN ME BA IBEJI LO
IBEJI LO GUL OSUN
OSUN ME BA IBEJI LO
Osun helps me to have twins
May twins come Osun
Oshun helps me have twins.
{thanks to filho de logunede for the lyrics & translation.}
6.01.2009
the kegel post!
all right, ladies. by now we hope that you're all familiar with the {in}famous kegel exercises.
but just in case, remember when you were little and you discovered you could stop the flow of your pee? that's a kegel.
more scientifically:
so, basically, kegels can...
about.com has a great how-to blurb for kegels. for more tactile learners, devices such as jade eggs, and ben-wa balls can be helpful. experiment during a session with your favorite dildo/vibe.
{one note about ben-wa balls - go for high quality ones made of pure, non-coated stainless steel or natural stones/gems, particularly if you're prone to vaginal irritation and/or urinary tract infections.}
finally, always remember to consider the energetic implications of conditioning a particular area of the physical body. the reproductive organs are part of the root chakra, and their relative illness/wellness can be an indication of how safe, grounded and connected you feel in all areas of your life.
have a great workout!
big thanks to see line woman for suggesting this topic!
but just in case, remember when you were little and you discovered you could stop the flow of your pee? that's a kegel.
more scientifically:
The aim of Kegel exercises is to fortify muscle tone by strengthening the pubococcygeus muscles of the pelvic floor. Kegel is a popular prescribed exercise for pregnant women to prepare the pelvic floor for physiological stresses of the later stages of pregnancy and vaginal childbirth. Kegel exercises are said to be good for treating vaginal prolapse and preventing uterine prolapse in women and for treating prostate pain and swelling resulting from benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) and prostatitis in men. Kegel exercises may be beneficial in treating urinary incontinence in both men and women. Kegel exercises may also increase sexual gratification.
so, basically, kegels can...
- help ease childbirth;
- keep all your lady parts in the right places by strengthening the pelvic floor, which holds up everything from your uterus and bladder to part of your intestines;
- and assist in increasing your sex goddess potential.
about.com has a great how-to blurb for kegels. for more tactile learners, devices such as jade eggs, and ben-wa balls can be helpful. experiment during a session with your favorite dildo/vibe.
{one note about ben-wa balls - go for high quality ones made of pure, non-coated stainless steel or natural stones/gems, particularly if you're prone to vaginal irritation and/or urinary tract infections.}
finally, always remember to consider the energetic implications of conditioning a particular area of the physical body. the reproductive organs are part of the root chakra, and their relative illness/wellness can be an indication of how safe, grounded and connected you feel in all areas of your life.
have a great workout!
big thanks to see line woman for suggesting this topic!
5.15.2009
quickie!
dear ones, please do yourself a favor and visit {the not work safe} violet blue's tiny nibbles.
ms. blue is an author and sex educator, and her site is chock full of information on safer sex, toys, and other wonderful tidbits. there's even a blog.
go get you some!
ms. blue is an author and sex educator, and her site is chock full of information on safer sex, toys, and other wonderful tidbits. there's even a blog.
go get you some!
5.14.2009
in the waiting room...
My caramel mohagony fairy tale
He gon' do very well; I'm fearin for the farewell, stay awhile
We could just lay awhie, see me smile better
Lean your chest on me, make you my sweater - I want the rest of you
Pressin me head-up, I need contact
Your windows reflectin me back, later I ask where your memories at
Your face tellin me that, you need a taste
Where the Hennessey's at? C'mon, blace me
Replace the glasses with the tip of my tongue
I won't front baby, lady is sprung
And though relation is young, I feel us makin a connection beyond
So that I {ssssss! } like a chick in a saun', no lie, won't I
Take my time, let the bass unwind
Claymation couldn't mold a better mind, you're sick (sick)
And I'll be the nurse and you be the patient
Boy, how insane could it get? You so hot, baby...
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiigh (you're makin me so...)
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiigh (you're gettin me so...)
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh...
... c'mon
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiigh (you're makin me so...)
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiigh, baby I'm
So high off, your love, ooh, ooh, oooh...
Okay, turn the lights out - no, turn 'em back on
Want you to see my backbone and my black tone
Start minimal, raise it to animal, please
You're no amateur, please me I'm tangable
Knees be all tangled up, like the handles
Placed on the mantle, that romantic angles
We'll slow dance 'til tango and gets horizontal
I know you go longer that flow with no comma (hehe)
I'm high on ya, ya like it don't cha?
Could survive, but it's bitin on ya
Like those, high notes, nibble just a little bit
Everything I'm thinkin, you're already deliverin it
Quiver, pleasure unheard, you ain't even done first, baby
When I done burst, crazy
I'm in love thirst, you are the quencher
Maybe we should be taping so you can remember... I'm just sayin!
5.13.2009
sexism hurts us all.
at first, your dear proprietress was quite skeptical about the delights of twitter, but she's discovered that people are always posting the most thought provoking things...
tonight, there was this list.
now, while there were some cringe-worthy moments {see: #9's quote and most of #10} it's not too bad. much of this list details the basics of just about any healthy relationship between two people.
that said, *unsheathes claws*...
it's understood that the blog is geared towards women, but targeting this list solely at the wife raises an eyebrow. why not just "how to superglue a marriage", period?
it also would have been nice to find something in the introductory paragraph like, "...and, husbands, don't forget to do this with your wives!" vs. the straight-outta-cosmo, "Below are 20 ways to help you superglue your marriage, and to stay your man’s number one choice." hell, if more men learned to do those same 20 things, more marriages would indeed be superglued, right?
this whole thing put us in mind of this list, which some of you may have seen floating around the internet. there are glimmers of it within the "20 ways", but let's give the author the benefit of the doubt and assume that even she would find the postwar do's and don'ts a bit extreme.
however, both raise similar issues.
at worst, making women the primary scapegoats for what happens in their marriages and other intimate relationships--covertly or overtly--is one of the most salient ways sexism/sexist ideology harms those relationships. it can also serve as a justification for intimate violence.
given the social and cultural cues that most men are raised with and/or absorb in this culture, adding the idea that men are infallible pillars of authority and dominance is dangerous. and for anyone who knows what anti-oppression work looks like, the whole shebang is full of questionable power dynamics {refusing sex "works both ways", but this list doesn't??}.
at best--which, in this case, basically amounts to the non-abusive manifestation--men act out a false sense of superiority and wind up alone, wondering why they can't find a "good woman". women that tire of being single can often shut down and stifle significant parts of themselves to "make it work".
no one is always right.
no one is always wrong.
if the "20 ways" work for you and yours, great! goodness knows we've used a tactic or five. plus, the whole site is obviously targeted towards a demographic a bit dissimilar {ok. probably on the other side of the street...} from the one we cater to here at the shack. we can agree to disagree.
but, ultimately, love's gotta be a 2-way street, and any relationship lacking reciprocity is an unnecessary drain of energy, light and bliss.
tonight, there was this list.
now, while there were some cringe-worthy moments {see: #9's quote and most of #10} it's not too bad. much of this list details the basics of just about any healthy relationship between two people.
that said, *unsheathes claws*...
it's understood that the blog is geared towards women, but targeting this list solely at the wife raises an eyebrow. why not just "how to superglue a marriage", period?
it also would have been nice to find something in the introductory paragraph like, "...and, husbands, don't forget to do this with your wives!" vs. the straight-outta-cosmo, "Below are 20 ways to help you superglue your marriage, and to stay your man’s number one choice." hell, if more men learned to do those same 20 things, more marriages would indeed be superglued, right?
this whole thing put us in mind of this list, which some of you may have seen floating around the internet. there are glimmers of it within the "20 ways", but let's give the author the benefit of the doubt and assume that even she would find the postwar do's and don'ts a bit extreme.
however, both raise similar issues.
at worst, making women the primary scapegoats for what happens in their marriages and other intimate relationships--covertly or overtly--is one of the most salient ways sexism/sexist ideology harms those relationships. it can also serve as a justification for intimate violence.
given the social and cultural cues that most men are raised with and/or absorb in this culture, adding the idea that men are infallible pillars of authority and dominance is dangerous. and for anyone who knows what anti-oppression work looks like, the whole shebang is full of questionable power dynamics {refusing sex "works both ways", but this list doesn't??}.
at best--which, in this case, basically amounts to the non-abusive manifestation--men act out a false sense of superiority and wind up alone, wondering why they can't find a "good woman". women that tire of being single can often shut down and stifle significant parts of themselves to "make it work".
no one is always right.
no one is always wrong.
if the "20 ways" work for you and yours, great! goodness knows we've used a tactic or five. plus, the whole site is obviously targeted towards a demographic a bit dissimilar {ok. probably on the other side of the street...} from the one we cater to here at the shack. we can agree to disagree.
but, ultimately, love's gotta be a 2-way street, and any relationship lacking reciprocity is an unnecessary drain of energy, light and bliss.
5.11.2009
stalker love*
'cause sometimes you just need some space. and sometimes you need a whole new zip code.
5. j. holiday, "suffocate". let the girl live, man, damn.
4. lenny williams, "'cause i love you". 'cause you know he's about two steps from stalkerville...if he's not already singing this outside her bedroom window...
3. oran "juice" jones, "in the rain" (actual video here). in your car outside the restaurant? really?
2. jennifer hudson, "and i am telling you i'm not going". again, not the original, but no one's sang {yes, sang} it like that since ms. holliday. goosebump raising performance aside, the restraining order's in the mail...
1. nina simone, "i put a spell on you". it's not the original, but somehow hearing it from a sista makes that spell sound really serious...
best stalker song you haven't heard: gaelle, "parkway"
*of course, this is all in fun, but being stalked is a serious issue that is not exclusive to celebrities. if you feel you are being harrassed, you should contact your local law enforcement agency. learn more at the stalking resource center or AWARE.
5. j. holiday, "suffocate". let the girl live, man, damn.
4. lenny williams, "'cause i love you". 'cause you know he's about two steps from stalkerville...if he's not already singing this outside her bedroom window...
3. oran "juice" jones, "in the rain" (actual video here). in your car outside the restaurant? really?
2. jennifer hudson, "and i am telling you i'm not going". again, not the original, but no one's sang {yes, sang} it like that since ms. holliday. goosebump raising performance aside, the restraining order's in the mail...
1. nina simone, "i put a spell on you". it's not the original, but somehow hearing it from a sista makes that spell sound really serious...
best stalker song you haven't heard: gaelle, "parkway"
*of course, this is all in fun, but being stalked is a serious issue that is not exclusive to celebrities. if you feel you are being harrassed, you should contact your local law enforcement agency. learn more at the stalking resource center or AWARE.
5.10.2009
quickie!
hussy red offers an interesting review of the orchid g massager.
what grabbed us was this bit:
what grabbed us was this bit:
Performance wise, I also wasn’t too impressed. I’m always skeptical of hard plastic toys because their mere existence implies that there is only one way for all female-born people to be shaped and sized; that we all have the same assembly-line produced bits ‘n pieces and that they react the same way and do the same things. We all know that what works for you, might not work for me, yet a lot of sex toy manufacturers seem to ignore that fact. Because of this, we wind up with toys like the Orchid G, which seems to suggest that all g-spots are located at the exact same angle. Forever and ever. Amen.
Sigh.
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