full disclosure

beloveds,

sometimes you forget your bliss.

there can be many reasons for this.

life can, very simply, get in the way: family emergencies, the needs of babies, stress at work or school...

there are situations where we give a little too much, work a little too hard. it's entirely possible to forget to hold on to our gooey, sticky sweet center. and that neglect can even be necessary to get us through a particular challenge.

your proprietress, obviously, is above none of this. so this is a message for us all:

forgive yourself.

if you find yourself unhappy, under-loved, overworked, exhausted, it's ok.

forgive yourself.

if you've been letting someone else have the big piece of chicken* (or tofu), painting your house other people's colors, forsaking your naked full moon dance, it's fine.

forgive yourself.

all is in divine order, and there's beauty in the breakdown.

as soon as you've realized you've given and/or done too much, you can always stop, relocate your center, and change.

don't berate yourself; the why's and what for's will become clear soon enough. it is enough to know when it's time to pack your things and walk away.

in solidarity, with love,

~:~ ms. bliss ~:~


*copyright, ms. oyin

in the waiting room...

jaguar wright
"self love"

Caught up in a web of deception, from this shit I done learned new lessons
So what you do, you keep on playing, you play on, player
From love to confusion you keep gaining but you keep losing
So what cha find comfort in your bosom, bosom, heart bosom, I'm the one
From the high note to the low pains you see destruction but {???}
Only voices you hear in your own head, and they all laugh ha ha ha ha ha yeah
From your denials to your delusions everything you gain you keep losing
What you not know it's an illusion, so what the hell you doing?

Here's looking at love, kid
Here's looking at love, kid
Here's looking at love, kid
Here's looking at you, here's looking at me
Here's looking at love, kid
Here's looking at love, kid
Here's looking at you, here's looking at me, here's looking at us, here's looking at we, ah shit
Here's looking at

You wake up every morning but baby boy you not sleep
Your taste food but you not eat
Your running fast but your not on your feet and your speed is there
You run on but you not know, you climb inside but you can't grow
Festering and festering til you fall to the floor
You screamed no but don't {????}
You work and work with no pay, you punch a clock but never end your day
You take vacation but you not play what we say by this time here my friends drink three
You cry cry revolution, but yet you want a solution
But you more content with being a pollution jump in the motion, and ask the notion

Here's looking at love, kid
Here's looking at love, kid
Here's looking at you, here's looking at me, here's looking at us, here's looking at we
Here's looking at love, kid
Looking at love, kid
Here's looking at you, here's looking at me, here's looking at us, here's looking at we

Self love, self preservation, Self love, self preservation...

L O V E love
L O V E love yourself

If you don't like your job, maybe you should quit, stop being a bitch, and love yourself
If you believe things can work out easily,
I'm telling you if you don't like what your mama's telling you
Then be a grown man and stand up on your own two and love yourself
And if your girlfriends is on welfare, then baby walk away, you don't have to care,
Love yourself
And if standing on the corner and pushing rocks up in your socks
Ain't what you want to do then knock that...love yourself

L O V E your
L O V E yourself

ad lib out...

in the waiting room...

toney fountaine
"i found the girl"

sorry, lyrics not available

it's been a long time...

good morning, lovelies!

so sorry to leave you waiting. your proprietress has by no means abandoned this space, but life in all its myriad forms has been very efficient at distracting her from this project and bliss-making in general {a fabulous vacation notwithstanding}.

however, i hope that the dry spell has allowed you to check out some of the good stuff on the site, inspired you to get your own thing going, or led you to a great beach book.

we hope to emerge from the abyss sooner rather than later...maybe even with a new look, who knows.

in the meantime, don't forget to pat your pussy and remember your role.

yours in love & deliciousness,

~:~ ms. bliss ~:~

in memoriam

the day our music died...

blessings on your life...rest well.

playing with fire

porn is one thing. and just about everyone loves a good parody.

but this {link not work safe} not the cosbys thing seems to be crossing a line...

the least they could have done was consider a parody of a show where all the characters are grown folks, e.g. sanford and son or roc.

aren't there already enough "teen" porn sites out there?

do we really need to play with the idea of pedophilia when childhood sexual abuse is rampant?

is this dangerous in a culture where, even in the 21st century, no one wants to talk about effective, comprehensive, age-appropriate sex education?

we're all for grown folks having grown folks fun, but this feels like something very, very different.

quickie!

yet another way internalized oppression rears its ugly head.

thank you, dr. klein.

celebrate, love and honor your cycle

would have labeled this a quickie, but it really is so, so much more.

it is essential that all of us--women especially, but also the men that love us--reopen to the fact that our menstrual cycle is just as important and powerful as the changing of the seasons and the phases of the moon, including recalling the true intentions around menstrual "taboos" and seclusion.



you owe it to yourself to check out diva mama tonya and her you tube channel.

in the waiting room...

a praise song for oshun
sung by ella andall



OLA N GA LA FILA FI OSUN
OLA N GA LA FILA FUN YEYE
OLA N GA LA FERE KAYERE
OSUN GA LA FILA FUN YEYE
The one who commands wealth like a crown is Osun
Wealth is commanded like a crown for my Mother
She commands wealth like our Mother's crown

TALADE OSUN, TALADE OLOMI (OSUN TALADE)
TALADE YEYE, TALADE OLODO
TALADE, TALADE, OLORI
OSE REMI KUMERE YEYE
Osun is the owner of the crown
The crown is benefiting the ruler of water
(Oshun owns the crown)
My Mother owns the crown,
the crown is benefiting the owner of the rivers
The one who owns the crown is the queen
We give thanks to my friend,
My Mother who makes good of blessings.

OSUN ME GBA IBEJI LO
IBEJI LO YEYE OSUN
OSUN ME GBA IBEJI LO
Osun take me so that I may have twins
Let twins come, Mother Osun
Osun take me so that I may have twins

OSUN ME BA IBEJI LO
IBEJI LO GUL OSUN
OSUN ME BA IBEJI LO
Osun helps me to have twins
May twins come Osun
Oshun helps me have twins.

{thanks to filho de logunede for the lyrics & translation.}

the kegel post!

all right, ladies. by now we hope that you're all familiar with the {in}famous kegel exercises.

but just in case, remember when you were little and you discovered you could stop the flow of your pee? that's a kegel.

more scientifically:

The aim of Kegel exercises is to fortify muscle tone by strengthening the pubococcygeus muscles of the pelvic floor. Kegel is a popular prescribed exercise for pregnant women to prepare the pelvic floor for physiological stresses of the later stages of pregnancy and vaginal childbirth. Kegel exercises are said to be good for treating vaginal prolapse and preventing uterine prolapse in women and for treating prostate pain and swelling resulting from benign prostatic hyperplasia (BPH) and prostatitis in men. Kegel exercises may be beneficial in treating urinary incontinence in both men and women. Kegel exercises may also increase sexual gratification.

so, basically, kegels can...

• help ease childbirth;
• keep all your lady parts in the right places by strengthening the pelvic floor, which holds up everything from your uterus and bladder to part of your intestines;
• and assist in increasing your sex goddess potential.

your vagina, like most parts of your body, contains muscles. fortunately for us, they're voluntary muscles that can be strengthened and controlled.

about.com has a great how-to blurb for kegels. for more tactile learners, devices such as jade eggs, and ben-wa balls can be helpful. experiment during a session with your favorite dildo/vibe.

{one note about ben-wa balls - go for high quality ones made of pure, non-coated stainless steel or natural stones/gems, particularly if you're prone to vaginal irritation and/or urinary tract infections.}

finally, always remember to consider the energetic implications of conditioning a particular area of the physical body. the reproductive organs are part of the root chakra, and their relative illness/wellness can be an indication of how safe, grounded and connected you feel in all areas of your life.

have a great workout!



big thanks to see line woman for suggesting this topic!