in the waiting room...

janet jackson
"moist"

You're feelin' in it
You're ticklin' it
You're swimming in it
You're gonna get it

I'm insatiable
And it's all your fault
So much lust involved
To get me off
My water falls

Your sexuality (breeds)
A storm inside of me (seas)
A touch is all I need
To make me scream
Obscenities

Every time you whisper in my ear I get aroused
You begin to slowly unbutton my blouse
Kissing on my skin my heart's racing now

I want you boy

Caught up in the waves of passion up and down
Love the way you movin?my body all around
Boy you 'bout to make the rain come down

[Chorus]

Feel my rain come
Pouring soaking
Longing your lips
Baby ooh

You make it so moist

When my ocean's overflowing
Afterglowing
Take me oooh

You make me so moist

Orgasmic
Row it just like that
Hope you like drowning in it
You won't have a life jacket

My thirst is quenched
Ooh baby we're so drenched
Our body's rhythms are
So cataclysmic
Got me twisted

Feeling your anatomy breaking me down
Sucking on my (mmm) with ice in your mouth
Hurry and undress me take me right now
I'm wet for you boy
Caught up in the waves of passion up and down
Love the way you movin?my body all around

Boy you know you make the rain come down
You know how to make my rain come down

[Chorus]

[4x]
You're feelin' in it
You're ticklin' it
You're swimming in it
You're gonna get it
Moist

the headwrap: yet another african survival

brought to you by the motherland and the millions transported during the middle passage.

peep this excerpt on the cultural differences between methods of head-covering:

Tying a piece of cloth around the head is not specific to any one cultural group. Men and women have worn and continue to wear some type of fabric head covering in many societies. What does appear to be culturally specific, however, is the way the fabric is worn; in other words, the style in which the fabric is worn is the ultimate cultural marker. Here, .style" is not used to mean a particular fashion. Rather, I use the term to mean a studied way of presenting the self-an idea of how one ought to appear before others. In order to explore this concept, careful note must be taken of the significant difference between the style of cloth head coverings as worn by white women and the headwrap as styled by black women.

To wrap her head, a European or white American woman simply folds a square piece of fabric into a triangular shape and covers her hair by tying the fabric under her chin; or, less often, by tying it at the nape of the neck. In either case, the untied points of fabric are left to fall down over the back of the head. The Euro American style results in a head covering which flattens against the head and encloses the face, and thus visually seems to pull the head down. The terms "scarf" or "kerchief" usually denote this type of head covering. Scarves are not particularly popular items of white American women's fashion today, but when they are worn, they consistently are arranged in the manner just described.

By contrast, a woman of African ancestry folds the fabric into a rectilinear shape rather than into a triangle. The most significant difference between the Euro- American and Afro-centric manner of styling the cloth is that rather than tying the knot under her chin, the African American woman usually ties the knots somewhere on the crown of her head, either at the top or on the sides, often tucking the ends into the wrap.

Although the African American woman sometimes ties the fabric at the nape of the neck, her form of styling always leaves her forehead and neck exposed; and, by leaving her face open, the headwrap visually enhances the facial features. The African American headwrap thus works as a regal coronet, drawing the onlooker's gaze up, rather than down. In effect, African and African American women wear the headwrap as a queen might wear a crown. In this way the headwrap corresponds to African and African American women's manner of hair styling, wherein the hair is pulled so as to expose the forehead and is often drawn to a heightened mass on top of the head. In striking comparison, the scarf worn by white women emulates the way in which the hair of people of European ancestry naturally grows: falling downward and often arranged to cover the forehead.

{viewed on sistren rising's blog.}

quickie!

if you haven't seen man and wife, do yourself a favor and check it out.

shanda and scoop: black love for the hip hop generation.

sexy news

hmm. no comment on this one...rethinking the student/pupil taboo

new anthology...behind the bedroom door

can an affair be a good thing? another no comment...conference lovin' puts a spark back in married life

happy new year!!

here's to a bountiful, blissful 2009!



we'll see you on the other side!

quickie!

sublimefemme unbound is penned by a "high femme queer theorist, who critiques politics and culture wearing a sheer black peignor and pink marabou stilettos."

any questions?

{discovered via creative xicana's blogroll}

why don't they just give her a scarlet letter?

sigh.

this speaks to so many levels of sexism, dominance, oppression, spiritual fraud and misogyny that it's difficult to even know where to begin.

if she'd committed murder, or stolen from the children's hospital, or abused an elder...ok.

but exercising her right as a grown woman in her bed and her house?

nah. you coulda handled that in the pastor's office.

michael k probably got it right: somebody's mad they got turned down...

in memoriam

the shack would like to take a moment to mark the passing of a bastion of sensuality, eartha kitt.

her talent allowed her to turn a strife and rejection filled beginning into a life brimming with elegance, glamour and class.

enjoy your rest, mama eartha. may you be welcomed in the next realm.

in the waiting room...

john mayer
"slow dancing in a burning room"

It's not a silly little moment,
It's not the storm before the calm.
This is the deep and dying breath of
This love that we've been working on.

Can't seem to hold you like I want to
So I can feel you in my arms.
Nobody's gonna come and save you,
We pulled too many false alarms.

We're going down,
And you can see it too.
We're going down,
And you know that we're doomed.
My dear,
We're slow dancing in a burning room.

I was the one you always dreamed of,
You were the one I tried to draw.
How dare you say it's nothing to me?
Baby, you're the only light I ever saw.

I'll make the most of all the sadness,
You'll be a bitch because you can.
You try to hit me just to hurt me
So you leave me feeling dirty
Because you can't understand.

We're going down,
And you can see it too.
We're going down,
And you know that we're doomed.
My dear,
We're slow dancing in a burning room.

Go cry about it - why don't you?
Go cry about it - why don't you?
Go cry about it - why don't you?

My dear, we're slow dancing in a burning room,
Burning room,
Burning room,
Burning room,
Burning room.

Don't you think we oughta know by now?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we oughta know by now?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we oughta know by now?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?
Don't you think we shoulda learned somehow?

bliss manifestation

what it look like, y'all?

on this morning of the sun's rebirth, we wanted to offer a ritual that could be helpful in ushering in 2009. this touch of hoodoo is a good way to help maintain your bliss, or open your road to it.

bliss is a journey; it takes work to get there and stay there. it is glimpsed in moments--sometimes minutes, seconds and less-than-seconds. this glimpse is no guarantee against bad days, potholes, or stumbling blocks. but once you've held it, you know it, and you look for it in everything around you.

to begin, you will need to know the phases of the moon each month. you can use a virtual moon phase tracker or paper calendar for this. {don't forget to look for post consumer recycled paper!}

also, know that this practice tends to put some serious change in motion, so be sure you're ready for that before you begin.

new moon: write down any obstacles you feel are standing in your way. think: outdated ideas, habits, ways of being. this is not about the broad in accounting you can't stand. it's about how you might be standing in your own way. if you find it difficult to list obstacles, you may want to use the vow break* as a template.

after you've listed your obstacles, get rid of them. you can burn them, bury them, rip them up and flush them down the toilet...whatever feels permanent and releasing to you.

full moon: give thanks. that's it. express gratitude for the lifting of your obstacles--even if you feel it hasn't happened yet. be thankful the bunion on your pinky toe didn't drive you nuts when you broke in those new pumps. say a prayer of thanksgiving you already use. be grateful for the random compliment from that stranger. nothing is too large or small, as long as you're truly thankful for it.**

that's it!

if you have a sister circle or similar group, you may find it helpful to do this together to keep each other on task each month.

...oh, and give it time. this is akin to birthing, so mind the gestation period.

happy bliss crafting!


*the vow breaker is a VERY powerful mantra. be very specific and remain clear around what you're attempting to rid yourself of.

**note that some traditions reverse the cycle, purging at the full moon and giving thanks/renewing with the new.