dear ones, please do yourself a favor and visit {the not work safe} violet blue's tiny nibbles.
ms. blue is an author and sex educator, and her site is chock full of information on safer sex, toys, and other wonderful tidbits. there's even a blog.
go get you some!
5.15.2009
5.14.2009
in the waiting room...
My caramel mohagony fairy tale
He gon' do very well; I'm fearin for the farewell, stay awhile
We could just lay awhie, see me smile better
Lean your chest on me, make you my sweater - I want the rest of you
Pressin me head-up, I need contact
Your windows reflectin me back, later I ask where your memories at
Your face tellin me that, you need a taste
Where the Hennessey's at? C'mon, blace me
Replace the glasses with the tip of my tongue
I won't front baby, lady is sprung
And though relation is young, I feel us makin a connection beyond
So that I {ssssss! } like a chick in a saun', no lie, won't I
Take my time, let the bass unwind
Claymation couldn't mold a better mind, you're sick (sick)
And I'll be the nurse and you be the patient
Boy, how insane could it get? You so hot, baby...
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiigh (you're makin me so...)
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiigh (you're gettin me so...)
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh...
... c'mon
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiigh (you're makin me so...)
Hiiiiiiiiiiiiigh, baby I'm
So high off, your love, ooh, ooh, oooh...
Okay, turn the lights out - no, turn 'em back on
Want you to see my backbone and my black tone
Start minimal, raise it to animal, please
You're no amateur, please me I'm tangable
Knees be all tangled up, like the handles
Placed on the mantle, that romantic angles
We'll slow dance 'til tango and gets horizontal
I know you go longer that flow with no comma (hehe)
I'm high on ya, ya like it don't cha?
Could survive, but it's bitin on ya
Like those, high notes, nibble just a little bit
Everything I'm thinkin, you're already deliverin it
Quiver, pleasure unheard, you ain't even done first, baby
When I done burst, crazy
I'm in love thirst, you are the quencher
Maybe we should be taping so you can remember... I'm just sayin!
5.13.2009
sexism hurts us all.
at first, your dear proprietress was quite skeptical about the delights of twitter, but she's discovered that people are always posting the most thought provoking things...
tonight, there was this list.
now, while there were some cringe-worthy moments {see: #9's quote and most of #10} it's not too bad. much of this list details the basics of just about any healthy relationship between two people.
that said, *unsheathes claws*...
it's understood that the blog is geared towards women, but targeting this list solely at the wife raises an eyebrow. why not just "how to superglue a marriage", period?
it also would have been nice to find something in the introductory paragraph like, "...and, husbands, don't forget to do this with your wives!" vs. the straight-outta-cosmo, "Below are 20 ways to help you superglue your marriage, and to stay your man’s number one choice." hell, if more men learned to do those same 20 things, more marriages would indeed be superglued, right?
this whole thing put us in mind of this list, which some of you may have seen floating around the internet. there are glimmers of it within the "20 ways", but let's give the author the benefit of the doubt and assume that even she would find the postwar do's and don'ts a bit extreme.
however, both raise similar issues.
at worst, making women the primary scapegoats for what happens in their marriages and other intimate relationships--covertly or overtly--is one of the most salient ways sexism/sexist ideology harms those relationships. it can also serve as a justification for intimate violence.
given the social and cultural cues that most men are raised with and/or absorb in this culture, adding the idea that men are infallible pillars of authority and dominance is dangerous. and for anyone who knows what anti-oppression work looks like, the whole shebang is full of questionable power dynamics {refusing sex "works both ways", but this list doesn't??}.
at best--which, in this case, basically amounts to the non-abusive manifestation--men act out a false sense of superiority and wind up alone, wondering why they can't find a "good woman". women that tire of being single can often shut down and stifle significant parts of themselves to "make it work".
no one is always right.
no one is always wrong.
if the "20 ways" work for you and yours, great! goodness knows we've used a tactic or five. plus, the whole site is obviously targeted towards a demographic a bit dissimilar {ok. probably on the other side of the street...} from the one we cater to here at the shack. we can agree to disagree.
but, ultimately, love's gotta be a 2-way street, and any relationship lacking reciprocity is an unnecessary drain of energy, light and bliss.
tonight, there was this list.
now, while there were some cringe-worthy moments {see: #9's quote and most of #10} it's not too bad. much of this list details the basics of just about any healthy relationship between two people.
that said, *unsheathes claws*...
it's understood that the blog is geared towards women, but targeting this list solely at the wife raises an eyebrow. why not just "how to superglue a marriage", period?
it also would have been nice to find something in the introductory paragraph like, "...and, husbands, don't forget to do this with your wives!" vs. the straight-outta-cosmo, "Below are 20 ways to help you superglue your marriage, and to stay your man’s number one choice." hell, if more men learned to do those same 20 things, more marriages would indeed be superglued, right?
this whole thing put us in mind of this list, which some of you may have seen floating around the internet. there are glimmers of it within the "20 ways", but let's give the author the benefit of the doubt and assume that even she would find the postwar do's and don'ts a bit extreme.
however, both raise similar issues.
at worst, making women the primary scapegoats for what happens in their marriages and other intimate relationships--covertly or overtly--is one of the most salient ways sexism/sexist ideology harms those relationships. it can also serve as a justification for intimate violence.
given the social and cultural cues that most men are raised with and/or absorb in this culture, adding the idea that men are infallible pillars of authority and dominance is dangerous. and for anyone who knows what anti-oppression work looks like, the whole shebang is full of questionable power dynamics {refusing sex "works both ways", but this list doesn't??}.
at best--which, in this case, basically amounts to the non-abusive manifestation--men act out a false sense of superiority and wind up alone, wondering why they can't find a "good woman". women that tire of being single can often shut down and stifle significant parts of themselves to "make it work".
no one is always right.
no one is always wrong.
if the "20 ways" work for you and yours, great! goodness knows we've used a tactic or five. plus, the whole site is obviously targeted towards a demographic a bit dissimilar {ok. probably on the other side of the street...} from the one we cater to here at the shack. we can agree to disagree.
but, ultimately, love's gotta be a 2-way street, and any relationship lacking reciprocity is an unnecessary drain of energy, light and bliss.
5.11.2009
stalker love*
'cause sometimes you just need some space. and sometimes you need a whole new zip code.
5. j. holiday, "suffocate". let the girl live, man, damn.
4. lenny williams, "'cause i love you". 'cause you know he's about two steps from stalkerville...if he's not already singing this outside her bedroom window...
3. oran "juice" jones, "in the rain" (actual video here). in your car outside the restaurant? really?
2. jennifer hudson, "and i am telling you i'm not going". again, not the original, but no one's sang {yes, sang} it like that since ms. holliday. goosebump raising performance aside, the restraining order's in the mail...
1. nina simone, "i put a spell on you". it's not the original, but somehow hearing it from a sista makes that spell sound really serious...
best stalker song you haven't heard: gaelle, "parkway"
*of course, this is all in fun, but being stalked is a serious issue that is not exclusive to celebrities. if you feel you are being harrassed, you should contact your local law enforcement agency. learn more at the stalking resource center or AWARE.
5. j. holiday, "suffocate". let the girl live, man, damn.
4. lenny williams, "'cause i love you". 'cause you know he's about two steps from stalkerville...if he's not already singing this outside her bedroom window...
3. oran "juice" jones, "in the rain" (actual video here). in your car outside the restaurant? really?
2. jennifer hudson, "and i am telling you i'm not going". again, not the original, but no one's sang {yes, sang} it like that since ms. holliday. goosebump raising performance aside, the restraining order's in the mail...
1. nina simone, "i put a spell on you". it's not the original, but somehow hearing it from a sista makes that spell sound really serious...
best stalker song you haven't heard: gaelle, "parkway"
*of course, this is all in fun, but being stalked is a serious issue that is not exclusive to celebrities. if you feel you are being harrassed, you should contact your local law enforcement agency. learn more at the stalking resource center or AWARE.
5.10.2009
quickie!
hussy red offers an interesting review of the orchid g massager.
what grabbed us was this bit:
what grabbed us was this bit:
Performance wise, I also wasn’t too impressed. I’m always skeptical of hard plastic toys because their mere existence implies that there is only one way for all female-born people to be shaped and sized; that we all have the same assembly-line produced bits ‘n pieces and that they react the same way and do the same things. We all know that what works for you, might not work for me, yet a lot of sex toy manufacturers seem to ignore that fact. Because of this, we wind up with toys like the Orchid G, which seems to suggest that all g-spots are located at the exact same angle. Forever and ever. Amen.
Sigh.
5.09.2009
5.08.2009
love your body campaign
a cause after our own heart, the love your body campaign seeks to rage against plastic surgery and airbrushed photo machines by encouraging women to love themselves.
there's also an awesome poster contest that ties into the love your body calendars.
Hollywood and the fashion, cosmetics and diet industries work hard to make each of us believe that our bodies are unacceptable and need constant improvement. Print ads and television commercials reduce us to body parts — lips, legs, breasts — airbrushed and touched up to meet impossible standards. TV shows tell women and teenage girls that cosmetic surgery is good for self-esteem. Is it any wonder that 80% of U.S. women are dissatisfied with their appearance?
Women and girls spend billions of dollars every year on cosmetics, fashion, magazines and diet aids. These industries can't use negative images to sell their products without our assistance.
Together, we can fight back.
there's also an awesome poster contest that ties into the love your body calendars.
5.07.2009
one size fits all (?)
well, it had to come up sometime: does size matter?
the discussion's been had everywhere from casual soirees, internet chat rooms, bachelorette parties and boardrooms.
for those of you that just yelled "yes, dammit!" at the computer screen, you might want to check out lpsg's {definitely not work safe. at all.} resources for the, uh, gifted gentleman.
as luck would have it, it's one of those sites where you need to sign up to have the most fun, and it's not just for the fellas.
once inside, it's pretty easy to see that along with the videos and photo galleries, it's basically a message board/networking site. there are forums specifically for women and one for "healthy penis" discussions. there are also special interest groups ranging from specific fetishes to regional meetups.
before you get all giddy, know that it's a free country, so some of the fellas are quite average. it's also on the pale side. but it definitely does the job of dispelling those myths about our distant caucasian cousins.
happy browsing!
the discussion's been had everywhere from casual soirees, internet chat rooms, bachelorette parties and boardrooms.
for those of you that just yelled "yes, dammit!" at the computer screen, you might want to check out lpsg's {definitely not work safe. at all.} resources for the, uh, gifted gentleman.
as luck would have it, it's one of those sites where you need to sign up to have the most fun, and it's not just for the fellas.
once inside, it's pretty easy to see that along with the videos and photo galleries, it's basically a message board/networking site. there are forums specifically for women and one for "healthy penis" discussions. there are also special interest groups ranging from specific fetishes to regional meetups.
before you get all giddy, know that it's a free country, so some of the fellas are quite average. it's also on the pale side. but it definitely does the job of dispelling those myths about our distant caucasian cousins.
happy browsing!
5.06.2009
5.05.2009
the word
today's word comes to us from saul williams, shamanic soul poet.
this excerpt is chapter 26 in the dead emcee scrolls: the lost teachings of hip hop. and so we read:
this excerpt is chapter 26 in the dead emcee scrolls: the lost teachings of hip hop. and so we read:
When you say you love me a series of changes begin to occur. First there is a warmth. The warmth generates heat. The heat permeates the cold. The ice melts. Limbs and branches are thawed. Blood circulates. A feeling of comfort pervades.
The body is oxygenated. It becomes limber. It yearns to dance, to move about freely and express its newfound energy. Music is sought through voice or ear. The heart identifies the rhythm of the song and synchronizes its pace. A union is formed between the visible and the invisible.
Song is the invitation from the primordial unseen to become one with that which is seen. To nod your head is to agree that the moment is godly: communion. To dance is to become God. There are many ways of dancing. Follow your heart.
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